Statistically isn't only 5% of women BPD? How come guys on this forum make it sound like a huge percentage of women are BPD? You guys seem so ready to just throw the label on any emotional girl whos giving you problems. I think most of the time its just girls being girls... girls are emotional creatures and sometimes make a big deal out of stupid stuff.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
The label BPD is thrown around so often..
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Right on
I know quite a lot about these disorders as I´ve bumped into a histrionic one (I´m SURE she is one), however I avoid labelling all girls as histrionics, "cluster B" (what a name?? uh, wtf?
), psychopaths, etc.... Most of the times they´re only insecure people.
We all have traits of some disorder or other, and that doesn´t makes us insane. No one is 100% normal, btw what is being normal? People take these concepts too far, just like the idea of "being the bad boy" and hurting everyone else, including themselves, in the process.
Nothing is black or white, all or nothing.
It seems as if all girls are BPDs. There´s been a massive amount of posts claming that these girls are BPD. Women are illogical and emotional, so most people around here simply label them BPD!Perseus said:
I know quite a lot about these disorders as I´ve bumped into a histrionic one (I´m SURE she is one), however I avoid labelling all girls as histrionics, "cluster B" (what a name?? uh, wtf?
), psychopaths, etc.... Most of the times they´re only insecure people.We all have traits of some disorder or other, and that doesn´t makes us insane. No one is 100% normal, btw what is being normal? People take these concepts too far, just like the idea of "being the bad boy" and hurting everyone else, including themselves, in the process.
Nothing is black or white, all or nothing.
You're right, all women are completely fvcking insane, its scientific fact. If all women weren't crazy, why would so many people necessitate dating sites, or forums such as this one? What varies is the amount of craziness the girl is willing to display. But they're all crazy, and more often than not, slutty too. Unless they're Mormon or something. And I'm talking devout Mormon, cause I've met Mormon girls that ended up stripping at a party we went to later.
Rambocs I agree with your general point, that women are insane. However I don't have (nor will have) enough experience to say that ALL women are crazy. But anyways, goes back to my point... not all women are BPD. I think this forums tends to generalize too much in order to rationalize stuff that can't really be rationalized in scientific terms. I agree completely blue phoenix, especially about the term being a "bad boy" thrown around like an absolute.
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that's just another excuse for guys to stick aorund while sum chick is disrespecting them.
i'm tired of seeing chumps get treated like sh!t by woman only to rationalize it as them "just being emotional".
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
While it's true that the percentage of Cluster B girls in the population is very small and that most women are emotional nutcases to some extent, the type of serious mindfvck that drove guys to go on an Internet search which eventually landed them here is often done by a Cluster B. That's why Cluster Bs seem to be over-represented in problem threads here.Perseus said:
There are also girls who may not quite be clinically diagnosed as a Cluster B but exhibit enough traits that for the guys here to have the knowledge of how to recognise and deal with Cluster Bs is invaluable in dealing with them.
Phenomenal One
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i know a chick that exhibits sum traits but her chump boyfriend think it's her being emotional.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.