TooColdUlrick
Master Don Juan
Dirtheart, your personal before/after is quite shocking too. why don't you post it again to lend more support to what you're saying.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
i'm telling 'ya, kudos bro...you could be THE poster boy for major transformation!Originally posted by Dirtheart
TooColdUlrick: It shocks even me sometimes just to think how I used to look.Anyway, on your suggestion I've included the pictures here:
Me 8-9 years ago:
http://www.wade.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/miscstuff/Dan-pig.jpg
http://www.wade.pwp.blueyonder.co.uk/miscstuff/Dan-geek.jpg
Me now:
http://www.myspace.com/index.cfm?fu...29135&imageID=17089979&Mytoken=20040810091406
http://www.myspace.com/index.cfm?fu...29135&imageID=14139184&Mytoken=20040810091406
I think most people will agree it's an improvement. The most drastic change came from losing such a lot of weight and working out, but the rest is mostly superficial. I covered a lot of my opinions about image and various tips that I've used in this thread for those who are interested:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=53635
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.