"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The key is to be HAPPY with what you do

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just be happy with yourself.

do what makes you a happier person..period.


its that simple..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I enjoy being used by women and being an AFC... but I am sad because when I let women use me, and when I act like an AFC, I don't get what makes me happy.

How can I overcome this paradox?
 
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Friv I agree with you 100%

I did a lot of stuff that made a lot of my friends leave me, but I am much happier being my own man.

Good tip.

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PS Flippinfreak just leave you already admitted to being a troll. Use some self-restraint.
 
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flippinfreak said:
I enjoy being used by women and being an AFC... but I am sad because when I let women use me, and when I act like an AFC, I don't get what makes me happy.

How can I overcome this paradox?
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That sounds like an internal battle to me...ask yourself WHY you enjoy being an AFC and getting used by women??
 
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I'm saying that the key is not to be happy with yourself. If you do what makes you a happier person, than you just may well be the most evil person alive.

Say I enjoyed limiting the number of males on the planet, because it made me happy to know I had a better chance. Perhaps my girl is trying to make me jealous by staring at another guy, when she is not staring at him, it makes me happy. If in both cases I was happy MURDERING the guy, and it made me happier, and I had no remorse after words, happy as well that I am not going to get caught...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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