"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DavenJuan

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iqqi said:
Alright, well don't blame me for being confused. Here is another thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=139181 in which you referred to her as MRS K, not ex-Mrs K, and you were always referring to her as MRS K, until that post exactly two years ago, where you said you moved on.

Icks,

It seems like youre giving him a really hard time about this...??

We dont have to agree with the choices some of us make, but I would think some of us who have been around for sometime, would support each other.

Titty said it best. Most marriages these days mean absolutely nothing to some people. Id give Karma the benefit of the doubt before Id critize his choices.

If I were recently divorced, i dont know if i personally would be ready for marriage again, but his siutation isnt my situation. his views arent my views.

I applaud him for even sharing this news with us. Its so easy for people to come to this forum, attempt to give advice, but never put THEMSELVES out there in fear of critiscim.

I obviously dont mean that towards you specifically icky, more as a generalization.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DavenJuan, it seems to me you're being oversensitive.

iqqi said:
Karma, because I am "abrasive" I believe I have been called, I will lay out my 2cents. I think you are moving too fast. Have you even been divorced a year, yet? Are you doing this in part to prove to your ex that you are better off without her? As in, the best revenge is living well. Are you doing this to prove something to yourself? Just some questions to ponder.

I always have a hard time taking someone seriously when they are deciding to make vows that they just broke.

I think divorce is a traumatic experience, and you are acting in a way that is uncharacteristic and not in line with your normal viewpoints
I think this was a great and constructive comment by Iqqi. I gotta admit Karma's responses to it are a bit unconvincing to me... So what's wrong with Iqqi asking him to clarify himself? You seem to be of the opinion that we should all just be happy for him and apply no critical thought to his decision, but what good would this forum be if we held such an attitude? If a guy decides to pursue a LTR with a BPD witch, would you just tell him you're happy for him? 'Nuff said...

I truly hope Karma's decision will bring him much happiness. But there's nothing wrong with iqqi's initial comment and her subsequent attempts to get clarification from Karma.
 

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Die Hard said:
DavenJuan, it seems to me you're being oversensitive.



I think this was a great and constructive comment by Iqqi. I gotta admit Karma's responses to it are a bit unconvincing to me... So what's wrong with Iqqi asking him to clarify himself? You seem to be of the opinion that we should all just be happy for him and apply no critical thought to his decision, but what good would this forum be if we held such an attitude? If a guy decides to pursue a LTR with a BPD witch, would you just tell him you're happy for him? 'Nuff said...

I truly hope Karma's decision will bring him much happiness. But there's nothing wrong with iqqi's initial comment and her subsequent attempts to get clarification from Karma.
I agree, that comment above is both constructive and ideal. I wasnt referencing that particular comment.

A noob who wants to pursue a LTR with a BPD witch, is a bit different. In that scenerio, I would give my "advice" and he would have to make his own decision, and deal with whatever actions followed. Thats all any of us can do. Provide our opinions and if that advice is taken or not is entirely up to that person. We cannot be responsible, nor control their actions.

In this particular case, Karma has been down this road before. He has seen the fruits of marriage, good and bad. I imagine he has learned something from his previous endeavors. He, I imagine, is fully aware of the risks as well as the rewards that come to follow this decision he has come to make. We provide our opinion on this choice, and move on.

I dont question that Icky has good intentions on what she is asking. I just dont understand why everyone is CONTINUING to drag this decision of his through the mud. I dont believe that if Karma decides to change his mind, it wouldnt be because of something anyone has said on this forum, moreso him making that decision on his own, for his own personal reasoning.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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