OK, this is not the typical journal post from me. This is a really serious issue I really want some outside perspective on. But, it requires a lot of backstory, so please be patient when reading it.
OK, so there's this girl who I've known since 8th Grade (we're Seniors now btw). I liked her last year, made a typical crappy AFC move on, and got shot down. However, we stayed friends. Earlier this year, I hooked her up with this one guy she liked, but was too afraid to ask out. He's a huge AFC, and setting them up was a pain in the ass since neither wanted to make a move, despite the fact that they both knew each other liked each other. Well I was doing it, she said somethings along the lines of how she didn't think that they were going anywhere and how she thought she could do better.
Now, this is where things get complicated, and where I need a lot of sorting out and advice. I was talking to her online on Christmas day night, and I was in a really crappy, depressed mood over some things. Then she started to tell me about how over the summer she herself was really depressed and suicidal, and cut herself and now goes to counseling for it. And I'm the first person beyond her older sister and parents that she ever told. Even her bf.
Now, tonite I was talking to her, and for some reason she was all depressed and suicidal again. So, she came to me for help, and ignored her bf who was also online. So, I was running late for a party to begin with, but I stayed and talked to her for a good half hour, talked her out of it, told her I was there for her if she needed someone to talk, and told her I'd leave my cell on and to call me if she needed someone to talk to again.
So... here's the dilemma. Since she told me all this stuff, it's weird, but I somewhat feel a stronger attraction to her knowing that she is like me (I'm not suicidal by any means, I just get in my depressed stages at times), and it also shows a great deal of trust on her part to tell me all of this. There were other things said between us, but she said something about how whenever she talks to me she feels like she's made progress with herself, and how she thinks God put her in my life for a reason.
So, I'm confused as hell right now. I set the girl up with a guy she was unsure about to begin with. Then since we've been talking more often lately, I'm starting to feel a stronger connection with her. On top of that, she's trusting me with extremely personal information about her, that she doesn't tell her bf. She also basically says the exact opposite things about me, that she said about this guy while I was struggling to hook them up.
So I think she doesn't really like this guy at all, but likes the feeling of being in "love" since it fills the void that she obviously has in her life. But is there anyway I can bring that up to her, and tell her how I think we might be a better match than her and this guy?? Because she's obviously not in a very stable mood right now, so I don't want to compound things and make them worse for her.
I could just leave things be, but if he's not helping her and only making things worse (something he said to her was the reason she was upset tonite), that's not doing any good with the situation either. So basically, I'm totally lost about this right now. Any advice at all is greatly appreciated...
-Mr. Pink
OK, so there's this girl who I've known since 8th Grade (we're Seniors now btw). I liked her last year, made a typical crappy AFC move on, and got shot down. However, we stayed friends. Earlier this year, I hooked her up with this one guy she liked, but was too afraid to ask out. He's a huge AFC, and setting them up was a pain in the ass since neither wanted to make a move, despite the fact that they both knew each other liked each other. Well I was doing it, she said somethings along the lines of how she didn't think that they were going anywhere and how she thought she could do better.
Now, this is where things get complicated, and where I need a lot of sorting out and advice. I was talking to her online on Christmas day night, and I was in a really crappy, depressed mood over some things. Then she started to tell me about how over the summer she herself was really depressed and suicidal, and cut herself and now goes to counseling for it. And I'm the first person beyond her older sister and parents that she ever told. Even her bf.
Now, tonite I was talking to her, and for some reason she was all depressed and suicidal again. So, she came to me for help, and ignored her bf who was also online. So, I was running late for a party to begin with, but I stayed and talked to her for a good half hour, talked her out of it, told her I was there for her if she needed someone to talk, and told her I'd leave my cell on and to call me if she needed someone to talk to again.
So... here's the dilemma. Since she told me all this stuff, it's weird, but I somewhat feel a stronger attraction to her knowing that she is like me (I'm not suicidal by any means, I just get in my depressed stages at times), and it also shows a great deal of trust on her part to tell me all of this. There were other things said between us, but she said something about how whenever she talks to me she feels like she's made progress with herself, and how she thinks God put her in my life for a reason.
So, I'm confused as hell right now. I set the girl up with a guy she was unsure about to begin with. Then since we've been talking more often lately, I'm starting to feel a stronger connection with her. On top of that, she's trusting me with extremely personal information about her, that she doesn't tell her bf. She also basically says the exact opposite things about me, that she said about this guy while I was struggling to hook them up.
So I think she doesn't really like this guy at all, but likes the feeling of being in "love" since it fills the void that she obviously has in her life. But is there anyway I can bring that up to her, and tell her how I think we might be a better match than her and this guy?? Because she's obviously not in a very stable mood right now, so I don't want to compound things and make them worse for her.
I could just leave things be, but if he's not helping her and only making things worse (something he said to her was the reason she was upset tonite), that's not doing any good with the situation either. So basically, I'm totally lost about this right now. Any advice at all is greatly appreciated...
-Mr. Pink
