"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The inflated female ego

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This has been a point of annoyance for me lately.

I come across more and more women these days with an obnoxiously lofty self-image. I call them "horn-tooters".

It's basically the female equivalent of a guy running around talking about what huge fvcking balls he has. Every mundane or otherwise normal accomplishment has to be touted as somehow above the rest of the world who has done the same thing. These women cant resist the temptation to tell you how AMAZING their life is, or how AMAZING they are with their CRAZY friends, or how most guys don't deserve them, with their beauty and charm and TOTALLY SPONTANEOUS CRAZINESS and smarts too!!

Ive never really been one to toot my own horn, maybe that's why I despise this so much. Let your accomplishments speak for themselves, rather than let your fat mouth belie your banality and self importance.


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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Colossus said:
This has been a point of annoyance for me lately.

I come across more and more women these days with an obnoxiously lofty self-image. I call them "horn-tooters".
Annoying little cretins....just another way of seeking their beloved attention.
 

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Interesting, as I just met one of these horn tooters (her line was how crazy her friends are, how much she gets "game" players, etc....which didn't stop her from coming home with me the night we finally met face to face, so I could care less about her friends).

I think this is more shi t testing. Besides, who would you rather be with...a woman with no self image or a very low self image, or one who thought she was something special...and then you can ****y/funny with her and have some fun bringing her into your world.
 

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who would you rather be with...a woman with no self image or a very low self image, or one who thought she was something special...and then you can ****y/funny with her and have some fun bringing her into your world.
Good question!

Let's ask Bill Clinton.
 

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Mr. Me said:
Good question!

Let's ask Bill Clinton.

Lol.:crackup:

I'd rather be with a woman who has a grounded view of herself. Horn-tooters just might be one of the most annoying female demographics since feminists or vegans.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Colossus said:
...feminists or vegans.
Funny how those who think they own the world are scared by girls and vegetables.
 

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The higher the IL, the more behaved she is despite her EGO.
 

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I consider the world mine.....and I just don't tolerate $hit from anyone who thinks they have the right to tell me what to do.....that list just happens to include feminists and vegans. If you want to call that "fear" then all the power to ya.
Yet you base your life on a spoon fed fantasy.
 

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potato said:
Yet you base your life on a spoon fed fantasy.
LOL that describes every woman I ever met.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Colossus said:
I said annoyed, not scared. What's funnier is that you're a girl posting under a vegetable's name.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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Colossus said:
I said annoyed, not scared. What's funnier is that you're a girl posting under a vegetable's name.
LMFAO potat-OWNED!!! :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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Actually I think it's great that more and more women toot their own horns with whatever sucesses they get...

When this country gets to a point of paying women for equal work as us men then maybe I'll think diferently then it will be an even playing field...but until then more power to these women who toot toot their own horns for the successes they get it don't bother me nor does it hurt my feelings one bit it only seems to hurt the feelings of those men I don't agree with.

LoneSilver
 

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LoneSilver said:
Actually I think it's great that more and more women toot their own horns with whatever sucesses they get...

When this country gets to a point of paying women for equal work as us men then maybe I'll think diferently then it will be an even playing field...but until then more power to these women who toot toot their own horns for the successes they get it don't bother me nor does it hurt my feelings one bit it only seems to hurt the feelings of those men I don't agree with.

LoneSilver
Um, WTF?

The problem is with arrogant, self-centered *****es who do nothing but talk about how arrogant and self-centered they are. They think that if they act and dress like Paris Hilton they will become Paris Hilton. They are without any real substance so they create a fantasy world inwhich they are the queen diva.
 

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its a filtration system women use to decide who to F, since any women over a 4 in looks has an unlimited number of men chasing her..... They dont like men who let them get away with that obnoxious BS!!! If she likes you she will let you break her down if you are man enough to try..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DonGorgon said:
its a filtration system women use to decide who to F, since any women over a 4 in looks has an unlimited number of men chasing her..... They dont like men who let them get away with that obnoxious BS!!! If she likes you she will let you break her down if you are man enough to try..

I don't think it's a filtration system. I think it's a manifestation of their ever-present need for attention. Blatant self-inflation is just a more overt push for attention, often used when others fail (e.g. their looks) or when they receive so much validation from their looks that they superimpose this on other facets of their identity.
 

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Colossus said:
I said annoyed, not scared. What's funnier is that you're a girl posting under a vegetable's name.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

The greatest potato ownage ever!

I see these woman with an over-inflated ego all the time. And it's probably the biggest turn off and it's totally unfeminine. Typically they'll be about 28, maybe divorced and might even have a kid or 4, and some middle-class token job that women always seem to get. It's like they were pulled right out of Sex and the City. However you want to explain it it is female ego meeting female entitlement and it's annoying and even repulsive.
 

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ketostix said:
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:


I see these woman with an over-inflated ego all the time. And it's probably the biggest turn off and it's totally unfeminine. Typically they'll be about 28, maybe divorced and might even have a kid or 4, and some middle-class token job that women always seem to get. It's like they were pulled right out of Sex and the City. However you want to explain it it is female ego meeting female entitlement and it's annoying and even repulsive.
You think that they are annoying at age 28 ? I meet 'em 20 years on with all their middle aged insecurities plastered on top of their teenage tactics.
These are sad sad woman - cougars acting like hot little kittens.

Apparently they stiil want "walks along a moonlit beach, romantic dinners, weekends in the country and a man who know how to treat a lady ".

However when i ask them what they see as their contibution to a mature relationship I get a big blank silent stare. IT seems that they still believe that their mere presence should be enough.
 

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jophil28 said:
You think that they are annoying at age 28 ? I meet 'em 20 years on with all their middle aged insecurities plastered on top of their teenage tactics.
These are sad sad woman - cougars acting like hot little kittens.

Apparently they stiil want "walks along a moonlit beach, romantic dinners, weekends in the country and a man who know how to treat a lady ".
I always say a woman is going to mature and have all the good qualities she's ever going to have by the time she's 25 or so. If they aren't mature and feminine by then they'll never be and their bad qualities will only get worse and less changeable. Oh, a few of these older women might learn to put on an act long enough to lock down a man, but it won't be long after that till their real personality and mentality comes out.
 

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I always say a woman is going to mature and have all the good qualities she's ever going to have by the time she's 25 or so. If they aren't mature and feminine by then they'll never be and their bad qualities will only get worse and less changeable. Oh, a few of these older women might learn to put on an act long enough to lock down a man, but it won't be long after that till their real personality and mentality comes out.
Yes, What he said.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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