"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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The importance of abundance mentality

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Creating abundance mentality is no easy task,especially in early years of dating. I guess every man has fallen into a trap of oneitis and scarcity mentality, but the difference is some man learn it in teen years as they got burned and yet there are man who just keep pedestealising every slightlly cute girl who gave him a bit of attention, even in his late 20s or 30s.What do you think how come some man never seem to work enough on them, their overall confidence and they keep getting depressed after every failed relationship as he believe there wont be any other ever?How come some people have Hard time realising that there will always be another girl? Does that has to do with maybe their family upbringing, overthinking, low self esteem? Feel free to join discussion and share your oppinions.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Many men these days are so deprived of something as simple as female attention that they are overwhelmed with just a hug. Wrapped around the finger of a girl who showed the slightest attention. That is our current social environment
 

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You said you have no issue attracting girls, but then you get buthurt over performance anxiety. So yes this advice is good for you because you have the looks.

For others as @redskinsfan92 is referring to, a failed relationship that feels like a fluke it got there in the first place feels like you go off a cliff. If you are invisible to women then you can not have an abundance mentality. You just give up to a point you just dont care.
 

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You said you have no issue attracting girls, but then you get buthurt over performance anxiety. So yes this advice is good for you because you have the looks.

For others as @redskinsfan92 is referring to, a failed relationship that feels like a fluke it got there in the first place feels like you go off a cliff. If you are invisible to women then you can not have an abundance mentality. You just give up to a point you just dont care.
Yes it did bump me a little bit as i didnt even know what performance anxiety was prior that but i never said i will never found another girl or she was the one to be that kind of buthurt
 

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Creating abundance mentality is no easy task,especially in early years of dating. I guess every man has fallen into a trap of oneitis and scarcity mentality, but the difference is some man learn it in teen years as they got burned and yet there are man who just keep pedestealising every slightlly cute girl who gave him a bit of attention, even in his late 20s or 30s.What do you think how come some man never seem to work enough on them, their overall confidence and they keep getting depressed after every failed relationship as he believe there wont be any other ever?How come some people have Hard time realising that there will always be another girl? Does that has to do with maybe their family upbringing, overthinking, low self esteem? Feel free to join discussion and share your oppinions.
It's hard to have an "abundance mentality" when there is shortage. That said, I think escortcelling does take away the feeling of "I can't screw up with this one since if I blow it, I won't be getting any".
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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We are wired to get attached to a woman and I see redpill as basically a self defence system to manage this.
Redpill means you have options and Blackpill means you don't.
 

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It's hard to have an "abundance mentality" when there is shortage. That said, I think escortcelling does take away the feeling of "I can't screw up with this one since if I blow it, I won't be getting any".
How would you know that? Are you an escortcell yourself or is this your theoretical last resort like @markfromeurope - the last resort that exists in mind only but is never used.
 
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