The idea of "playing the field" and dating/talking to multiple girls at once

[mang0]

I've read a lot on here about keeping your options open and seeing/dating multiple girls at once until you are actually in a relationship. I agree this is a good idea, but I have a question.


Do those of you who do this do it so you can simply have a back up plan or get rid of one when you two are done with, or do you do it to intact a little jealousy in the girls, or do you do both?

I feel the first reason is the best reason why, just to keep your options open so you don't get stuck with one girl and end up having nothing if it ends. I feel the 2nd reason is good too, but I feel it would give you the aura of being a "player" and turning girls off a bit.

I have done this before while talking to 3 girls, but I made sure they didn't know I was talking to the other girls at the time.

I guess I'm wondering if some of you use the jealousy the other girls might feel to your advantage, and how you do it to avoid seeming like a player or a ****.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

I don't think it's either of your two options.

I'm fine being single. I don't need a backup woman. Even if it means I have to go without sex for 2-3 months. I'll live.

And it's not jealousy either. I don't talk to women about each other.

The most noticeable benefit of dating multiple girls is, you avoid the perils of one-itis. Let's say you meet a girl, you go on a date, and you like her. Normal guys might be afraid if she doesn't reply to a text. Normal guys might worry about when to call her again. The guy with many potential dates, always knows the reality of the situation: There are ALWAYS more fish in the sea.

That's the problem most guys on here experience. They meet a girl, and they put all of their eggs in that one basket. Their heart rises and falls with this one girl.

I'm not gonna lie. If I meet a girl i REALLY like, and things don't work out, I get sad too. But I don't question every little detail of the relationship like many of these one-itis guys do. "She didn't answer my call, but she added me on facebook. What does that mean?!?!?" Stupid questions like this disappear when you realize that a new girl is always just around the corner