"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

The honest truth about being a man

CornbreadFed

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 7, 2023
Messages
4,651
Reaction score
3,721
Age
32
Location
Nashville, TN
Value is not historical. It is measured in the present moment.

What you provided before is irrelevant. The only questions that matter are what are you producing now and does the evidence suggest you can produce more later.

Society does not reward past performance. It recalibrates expectations. High output raises the baseline. Eventually variance becomes failure not because you declined but because perfection was assumed.

This is why high value men often collapse under their own metrics. They are still human yet evaluated as constants. When deviation occurs punishment follows.

A man with room to grow maintains interest longer. Growth signals future value. Plateau signals decay. This is not emotional. It is statistical.

This is why the two worst things you can ever do in front of a woman is complain and relax.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

ThisIsSparta

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 3, 2020
Messages
982
Reaction score
1,721
Age
48
Well not exactly ..... because women arent "the society".

Men do reward past performance, because men know what it takes to get **** done. There have been men worshipped by men for their past long after they started shytting their pants of old age.

And while a man totaly should strive to become a 1%er, there are also hundreds of millions of chicks out there, adoring dudes that are broke, criminals or in general guys that have clearly no capacity to provide anything then drama and/or misery.

If you put yourself into a treadmill for permanent growth over "society" (a(1) woman?), in desperation to keep her, you are fvcked and not in a good way. She will reek your desperation and heap ****tests on you like never before.

So, unless you are insecure about your own value to women, the correct approach is to stop giving a fvck what your woman thinks and tell her where the door is if she starts getting insecure about your value to her.

Its the old scarcity vs abundance mindset thing. If you act like a beggar that permanently has to prove himself to a(1) woman, dont be surprised when her pvssy dries up.
 

ThisIsSparta

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 3, 2020
Messages
982
Reaction score
1,721
Age
48
Unless you live in a country like Somalia, they basically run it.
Only when weak men allow their microcosm/life to be run by a woman.

No wonder the west is going down the drains with a defeatist simp-mindset like that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

ThisIsSparta

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 3, 2020
Messages
982
Reaction score
1,721
Age
48
would you rather live in the west or Somalia though

Do you think its better to live in "the west" then in Somalia because women are "running society"/men let women run society?

From what i see here in Europe, there are allready areas that look pretty much like Somalia due to women voting for it. (running society?)

From what i hear lately its not a lot different in USA/Minnesota and the likes.

So, if you want to end up living in "Somalia" one day, just keep letting women have their way/run society.
 

Aguirre

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 3, 2026
Messages
154
Reaction score
92
The honest truth is that it is still better being a man than a woman, no matter what challenges or expectations. It's like winning the lottery every day.
 

Gamisch

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 2, 2022
Messages
5,326
Reaction score
6,219
Unless you live in a country like Somalia, they basically run it.
This a a disappointing take bruh.

I like your latest philosophical way of thinking, so don't take it as an attack. We're just sharing takes..

Women don't run shyte. WE run this. I get what you're saying tho..recently there was a case where a women worked at under armor who got fired. What baffled me was tye salary she made. She mad like 3x the average income for folding fecking clothes, and ofcourse was sick for a couple of months on top of that. I geuss thts kinda what you mean: there will ALWAYS be a simp on a a high position willing to spoil a hot woman for firing emails and shuffling papers, kinda defeating the idea behind " hard work pays off". But that does not mean she is running shyte.

By the way there are some incredibly hot women in Somalia. A combination of black and arab with the best features of both..
 

jhonny9546

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 17, 2024
Messages
2,614
Reaction score
549
Location
Italy
It's the old scarcity vs. abundance mindset thing
The whole post can be summed up in one sentence: external validation and internal validation.

You have to choose the latter.
OP made a great point about how he thinks you should recalibrate yourself to the former.
In my opinion, that's completely wrong and doesn't lead to satisfaction.

Rather, build on your internal validation, and those who care about will show, and they won't care about anything else.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Top