"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The High School Forum Is Dying

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The high school forum is filled with nothing but journals and that is making it really dull. im not trying to say that journals are bad i mean that would be hypocritical because i own two lol. im trying to say that the high school forum needs some excitement!! we are the future of the don juans we need to make this a fun experience not something of a monotone.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Proposal

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I agree. What are you proposing?
i am proposing that there should be a series of treads that involve participation because in the high school forum there are a lot of lurkers who just read and read and then do not practice what they read. i saw a thread earlier about some kind of 2nd annual competition which i signed up for but now i realize that since those competition are for the more advanced don juan the challenges could be awkward for the high school DJ's so i suggest they make a teenage version

also i feel that they should have moderators for the teenage sub forums that are actually teenagers :rock: it might help
 

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black jesus, NDJ is a mod and a teenager. He's going through the exact same stuff, even keeps a journal of it.

I could get into threads that have discussion though. It's hard to read through so many journals and find the discussion points, especially when it takes so long to read some journals already. If I have a good question that I come through in my journal, I'll definitely start posting it up here, to see if we can get some good talks going. Good criticism.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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TheMusic

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Perhaps we should put all the Journals in a subforum?
 

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Norway, bumping this so you see it. A subforum for journals is a brilliant idea.

I think the next logical step is to rip down the stickies we have now (maybe move to an Archive subforum?) and put up a definitive High School bible. Between Nino and Norway and the other brilliant minds on this forum and the rest, I think we could really make something solid. Give back to the community that started us on our way.

Amo
 

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amohield said:
Norway, bumping this so you see it. A subforum for journals is a brilliant idea.

I think the next logical step is to rip down the stickies we have now (maybe move to an Archive subforum?) and put up a definitive High School bible. Between Nino and Norway and the other brilliant minds on this forum and the rest, I think we could really make something solid. Give back to the community that started us on our way.

Amo
Now a journal subforum isn't necessarily a bad idea, but I think that we should be careful that we keep our priorities straight.

This forum shouldn't be about discussing theory or tactics, or talking about things that happened in the past, it should be about actually getting girls. The only threads that reflect that are journals.

It's really important that people get feedback through their journal, so it makes me nervous to put them in a subforum where fewer people will check them and read through new posts.

Something to keep in mind.
 

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It'll keep it more clear. People will know what are journals, and if they want to read them, they'll know where to find them. There can be a sticky, with a list of active journals and some must-read journals.
Than we can use the Highschool part for information, and tactics, and reflect the results in the journals.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I think it would be a bad idea. Tactics vs ideals, ideals win every time. There aren't many ideals threads besides the journals, which are dense with them.

Action > Information x 10

LearningSlowly said:
This forum shouldn't be about discussing theory or tactics, or talking about things that happened in the past, it should be about actually getting girls. The only threads that reflect that are journals.

It's really important that people get feedback through their journal, so it makes me nervous to put them in a subforum where fewer people will check them and read through new posts.
This.

I think all of you newcomers are to focused on the small picture at the moment. After a couple of dozen girls you'll want to stop posting a thread for each one. Especially when a pattern emerges. You will also catch that pattern a lot faster if you have a journal.
 

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I think journals are more a sign of life than death.

Starting with Norwegian, followed up by myself, nova, and a few others and now we have a pretty active High School Forum with people who read the journals and are inspired to participate for themselves.

Otherwise this forum would just be a bunch of the same old questions about what to text her or online gaming...
 

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I second BPH's comment.
Journals are sometimes the best signs of progress. My journal kept me accountable of my progress (or lack of, at certain occasions).

Also, I like how each journal is like a subforum itself. People can give constructive criticism, praise when deserved, and encouragement. I know that without certain posters who were there, I would have given up by now.
 

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Maybe it would be nice, if there isn't going to be a subforum, to put a journal tag in front of the title of the journals (Something like [J], or [JRNL]), so people can easily see the difference between journals and ordinary questions.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm actually digging the journals. Way back in the day (I won't age myself by saying how far back...Older than my join date though!) there were a LOT of questions but no real responses. With the journals, I am actually getting to see a lot of you guys evolve and step your game up. This is actually one of the highest points I have seen the High School Forum at since the days of The Matrix: Reloaded, Brazilian Blues Boy, Lorenzo/KinoOI, Jester, Whatsupwiddat, misunderstood??, Eternal, Cablelight, syncmaster, Nocturnal, and the other greats.

Yeah, there are some things I'd change, but right now, this place is showing life. Let's keep it up!
 

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TheVirtualMind said:
I'm actually digging the journals. Way back in the day (I won't age myself by saying how far back...Older than my join date though!) there were a LOT of questions but no real responses. With the journals, I am actually getting to see a lot of you guys evolve and step your game up. This is actually one of the highest points I have seen the High School Forum at since the days of The Matrix: Reloaded, Brazilian Blues Boy, Lorenzo/KinoOI, Jester, Whatsupwiddat, misunderstood??, Eternal, Cablelight, syncmaster, Nocturnal, and the other greats.

Yeah, there are some things I'd change, but right now, this place is showing life. Let's keep it up!
Lol. Missed this post when it happened.

It's interesting to know that this forum has a history, beyond the months that I've been on it. And it's cool to know I'm following in a successful person's footsteps.

I post a lot up here (because I check this site as obsessively as my facebook, unfortunately) and I know I help some people, but I'm looking forward to some of these other guys catching up to the progress I've made so far (and me catching up to the ones ahead). Journals are the only threads I really ENJOY reading. I'll have opinions on those random topics, but I like understanding the person behind the name.

Can you guys imagine the day when every member of this core group has a 10+ page journal? We're going to know each other well, and know what we're each capable of. There will be a lot more stories of girls being kissed and virginities being lost.

For some of us though, we have one semester and the summer left. Then it's off to college or the rest of our lives. Let's get to work.
 

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TheVirtualMind said:
This is actually one of the highest points I have seen the High School Forum at since the days of The Matrix: Reloaded, Brazilian Blues Boy, Lorenzo/KinoOI, Jester, Whatsupwiddat, misunderstood??, Eternal, Cablelight, syncmaster, Nocturnal, and the other greats.
Dont forget Sammo. Those guys were amazing.
 
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