"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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The High Quality Women Are Lower Than You Think

Kailex

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I think defining "high quality" woman is entirely subjective. The problem is that for most men these days "high quality" women ARE yesterday's "average" woman or even "low" at fault of the man.

I hate to say it that way, but the amount of bullshyte that men are willing to withstand just to be in a relationship is absolutely mind-boggling. And the older I get and the more I see, the more I realize that this wasn't the world I "grew up in" as far as dating is concerned.

If the complaint is that today's high quality woman is really a mirage, then part of the blame needs to be on the men who have elevated such women to that status. There is no pedestal if there's no one doing the worshipping.

Unfortunately, as long as there are men desperate to grasp at the straws that is the tier above bottom feeders, then there will always be this imbalance. Sometimes when a "man" will come to me asking for advice, its usually on the dating basics, and when the answer becomes "raise your standards" and "build your own world and experiences", I'm usually met with a dumbfounded look. I'm patient though, because I was once like this.

So what can we do as men if we are part of the problem? Become high quality men. And this has nothing to do with money or success. This is just achieved with life experience and learning what to accept and not accept coming from other human beings. The higher quality you are, the better quality you will attract.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sodbuster

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Last trip to Manilla was about 2600, room in a decent hotel 130/night, food, maybe 80 a day for both of us. Medical exam is 400..... Ymmv, but there were the basic costs. Of course, tours and stuff all add extra to the price
 

zekko

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So what can we do as men if we are part of the problem? Become high quality men. And this has nothing to do with money or success. This is just achieved with life experience and learning what to accept and not accept coming from other human beings. The higher quality you are, the better quality you will attract.
And hopefully, the higher quality you will inspire. I've always said that men have to lead. If we do not exemplify high quality, the women are certainly not going to do it on their own.
 

glass half full

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The ideal situation (not likely) would be to catch your next approach when she's breaking up with her ex, so you can know the real package before you ask her out.

Hire a Private Detective? hehe that's probably considered stalking but it makes sense to me.
 

Desdinova

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The ideal situation (not likely) would be to catch your next approach when she's breaking up with her ex, so you can know the real package before you ask her out.
I think the easier way to figure that one out is to date them before they have too many ex-bfs under their belt. They won't be spoiled nor jaded if you get 'em young. The way I see it, a "high quality" woman shouldn't be riddled with exes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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