"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The hardest part 3 second rule

Frenchconnection

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So I'm at this practically deserted bar and a group of 4 girls are right next to me at the bar. The one closest to me is getting drinks and I took too long to initiate conversation.

Trying to think of something to say and worrying about it. Past 3 seconds, 30.. a minute nothing..

#R@$@#$#@!!! damn I'm regretting now :(
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Lord Shinra

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Bah, dont worry. Just remember next time to not stall and just do it.
 

j0n024

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Agreed you should not worry about the 3 second rule dude, hell I dont think about it and I always pass the 3 second rule but I still initiate maybe next time instead of thinking about what to talk about just first say hi and introduce yourself and go from there. Good luck,.
 

regular_guy

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Yeah dude, dont worry about it. You were not ready. So what. Now you learned, next time you will be a bit more prepared. Rome was not built in a day.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Nexus Polaris

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Exactly. Don't sweat it, man. Forget about it and move on to the next set.

The more practice you get just being comfortable in those situations, the more natural it will be to just spout out with something random that will open them.

Like I was at the bar the other night waiting on 3 drinks (for myself and my friends outside), and this HB8 walks up next to me to order something from the bar. As I try to gather all 3 drinks up in my hands, I just look over at her and say, "I really wish I had a third arm right about now." She looks at me and laughs. Bam! She's opened. It took no thought at all. Just a light-hearted comment about what was going on in the moment.
 

slitherjef

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I can't remember how many times I have done this, have a good excuse and a chance to talk to a chick and I keep trying to think of something to say or already have something to say and just argue with my self to open my mouth.

Its true what they say, "don't think about it, just DO it"

Hi usualy works it seems
 
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