"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The hardest part 3 second rule

Frenchconnection

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So I'm at this practically deserted bar and a group of 4 girls are right next to me at the bar. The one closest to me is getting drinks and I took too long to initiate conversation.

Trying to think of something to say and worrying about it. Past 3 seconds, 30.. a minute nothing..

#R@$@#$#@!!! damn I'm regretting now :(
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lord Shinra

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Bah, dont worry. Just remember next time to not stall and just do it.
 

j0n024

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Agreed you should not worry about the 3 second rule dude, hell I dont think about it and I always pass the 3 second rule but I still initiate maybe next time instead of thinking about what to talk about just first say hi and introduce yourself and go from there. Good luck,.
 

regular_guy

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Yeah dude, dont worry about it. You were not ready. So what. Now you learned, next time you will be a bit more prepared. Rome was not built in a day.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Nexus Polaris

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Exactly. Don't sweat it, man. Forget about it and move on to the next set.

The more practice you get just being comfortable in those situations, the more natural it will be to just spout out with something random that will open them.

Like I was at the bar the other night waiting on 3 drinks (for myself and my friends outside), and this HB8 walks up next to me to order something from the bar. As I try to gather all 3 drinks up in my hands, I just look over at her and say, "I really wish I had a third arm right about now." She looks at me and laughs. Bam! She's opened. It took no thought at all. Just a light-hearted comment about what was going on in the moment.
 

slitherjef

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I can't remember how many times I have done this, have a good excuse and a chance to talk to a chick and I keep trying to think of something to say or already have something to say and just argue with my self to open my mouth.

Its true what they say, "don't think about it, just DO it"

Hi usualy works it seems
 
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