She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PlasticSurgeon said:Letter of acceptance to New York University
Letter of acceptance to Medical School
Score reports of my United States Medical Licensing Examinations.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
dude, that's awesome. I've had a similar scenario. I got fired back in early '06 (at-will state) on a technicality (real issue is I got mixed up with a co-worker - sex with one, fight with another). I was a target! and they found a way to fire my azz - small company - What can you do??? Right now they're going under HAHA! The joke's on them! Their firing me was the Best thing that ever happened to me. After being fired, I drove 300 miles to a place I'd never been before made some contacts, got some names and phone numbers, and numerous opportunities started developing for me. My Faith in humanity restored and People Care, YOU just have to Take Action and GO! Decide to Do something about it, no time for crying! Anyhow, I got a job there with a Great company doing what I know how to do. I couldn't afford living there and they wouldn't transfer me so I Had to quit. Back 300 miles from where I come from a friend decided to take me into live with him - a total selfless brother. Before that though, I slept in my car a couple of times too! I ended up paying him rent of $400/mo, and moved out to get my own place within 5 months having landed a new temporary job! Now, after 1.5 Years of sporadic jobs, I'm Permanent! with the best company in my industry to work for!ready123 said:awesome thread. hella smart people here
Mine is grinding to get my ass off the street. I was living out of my car in 03 making $9/hr. By 04 I had a tech job making 70k/yr and no longer had to eat from the Jack in a Crack dollar menu
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.