ButtBurgular
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Been lurking for a minute, I figure it's time to propose a question:
The question is, how do I expand my range of opportunities? I'm in college, been in for a few years, still have a few left.
With that said, I'm not too big of an idiot when it comes to girls; I can typically hold my own when it comes to "seducing" a girl. Almost any chick I ever get past the smalltalk stage with, even if its just an aquaintance, or a friend-of-a-friend, ends up wanting to do me or ends up harrassing me via txt messages etc. I RARELY get approached by girls, but my roommate, who often does, will end up bringing girls over occasionally. Typically, these chicks end up wanting to do me by the end of the night. So obviously my issue isn't seduction.
The problem is, these chicks come around very rarely, and when they do, I don't consider them to be of any interest (not interested in anything less than 8.0). I work full time and go to school full time, so it's tough to develop a massive social circle, especially when my main people attend the state school 30 minutes away, where I usually spend my free weekends.
I assume most of you are thinking "well you just need to, like, get out there...and stuff", but it's not that easy, and that's not really the problem anyways. I've tried cold approaches quite a few times, but usually to no avail. Like I said before, girls get interested in me almost immediately after the small talk. As soon as they can see the real me. From my experience, cold approaches don't allow for that. Given that the most attractive part of me isn't apparent until trudging through pointless conversation, cold approaching just doesn't work very well; girls that are attracted to me often say things like "you think in such a weird way" or "i'm really intrigued by you" etc. If you don't know someone very well (aka cold approach/new acquaintance) it's difficult for them to see that part of you; it's buried.
After all this, primarily what I'm asking is, how can I QUICKLY get past the smalltalk stage with any given stranger/acquaintance. Or rather, how can I instantly make my "true self" become apparent when having a conversation with a new person? I find it to be difficult because almost any time I (or anyone else, from what I've observed) engage in small talk, you only see the slightest fraction of my/that-person's true personality. Not until ALL of the ice has been broken do you really see the full person, in my case at least. Anyone have a similar issue?
The question is, how do I expand my range of opportunities? I'm in college, been in for a few years, still have a few left.
With that said, I'm not too big of an idiot when it comes to girls; I can typically hold my own when it comes to "seducing" a girl. Almost any chick I ever get past the smalltalk stage with, even if its just an aquaintance, or a friend-of-a-friend, ends up wanting to do me or ends up harrassing me via txt messages etc. I RARELY get approached by girls, but my roommate, who often does, will end up bringing girls over occasionally. Typically, these chicks end up wanting to do me by the end of the night. So obviously my issue isn't seduction.
The problem is, these chicks come around very rarely, and when they do, I don't consider them to be of any interest (not interested in anything less than 8.0). I work full time and go to school full time, so it's tough to develop a massive social circle, especially when my main people attend the state school 30 minutes away, where I usually spend my free weekends.
I assume most of you are thinking "well you just need to, like, get out there...and stuff", but it's not that easy, and that's not really the problem anyways. I've tried cold approaches quite a few times, but usually to no avail. Like I said before, girls get interested in me almost immediately after the small talk. As soon as they can see the real me. From my experience, cold approaches don't allow for that. Given that the most attractive part of me isn't apparent until trudging through pointless conversation, cold approaching just doesn't work very well; girls that are attracted to me often say things like "you think in such a weird way" or "i'm really intrigued by you" etc. If you don't know someone very well (aka cold approach/new acquaintance) it's difficult for them to see that part of you; it's buried.
After all this, primarily what I'm asking is, how can I QUICKLY get past the smalltalk stage with any given stranger/acquaintance. Or rather, how can I instantly make my "true self" become apparent when having a conversation with a new person? I find it to be difficult because almost any time I (or anyone else, from what I've observed) engage in small talk, you only see the slightest fraction of my/that-person's true personality. Not until ALL of the ice has been broken do you really see the full person, in my case at least. Anyone have a similar issue?
