"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The girl working the register

Valei

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Hey guys I have a situation here. I've noticed that there are many beautiful that work at grocery stores. I'm telling myself I should try and mack to this girls but for some reason I'm drawing a blank on how to go about it. It just feels awkward asking women out at a register. What do you guys think? Any advice?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Got a business card? Give it to her after she gives you the reciept. You have to be quick because you are talking just seconds you have. My advice, be that smiling face and only go to her aisle. Once she begins to smile back then you know you can approach her. Just be quick and get her number. Either way, TRY to get her number and don't rely on her to call you.
 

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Valei said:
Hey guys I have a situation here. I've noticed that there are many beautiful that work at grocery stores. I'm telling myself I should try and mack to this girls but for some reason I'm drawing a blank on how to go about it. It just feels awkward asking women out at a register. What do you guys think? Any advice?


Things must be different in Buffalo than here. I never see good looking girls who work at grocery stores.
 

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Valei said:
Hey guys I have a situation here. I've noticed that there are many beautiful that work at grocery stores. I'm telling myself I should try and mack to this girls but for some reason I'm drawing a blank on how to go about it. It just feels awkward asking women out at a register. What do you guys think? Any advice?
It feels awkward because it is awkward. You're going in with the mindset that you want to go out with them, when all you know is that they are attractive, at work, and on a possible time constraint. You haven't yet established that there is any common ground to see if they are your type. It's just not a good position to be in, to have your mind already made up like that.

That's not to say that you couldn't ask them out AFTER you get to know them a bit. For instance, you could ask them a few questions about themselves at the checkout, like how long they worked there, or if they have a book they're reading nearby, comment on that, and see where it goes.

Just feel it out without trying too hard is what I'm saying.
 

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Checkout chicks are like female bartenders...they have heard it all before and are in work mode, so they are not disposed to noticing customers and responding positively. I think you really need to have good game to succeed, but trying will not hurt you either. There was another thread in this vein, so try doing a search.

The other point to make is that if you are chasing sales counter staff, then you are not meeting enough women in other places such as Starbucks, clubs, bookshops, etc.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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This line is more appropriate for cashiers at fast food restaurants - when she asks you "Anything else?" - they always ask this per their training - say, "Yes, give me your phone number" and quickly while pointing at her and while rolling your eyes add "but don't charge me for it!!"
 

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Thanks for the advice guys! Next time see a good I'll some of the things you said.
 
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