"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The girl is already trying to control me!!

B-Real

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Ok here's my story. I met this girl the other night at riverbend. You may or may not what riverbend is, but its a week long concert in Chattanooga TN. This year the Allman Brothers came. But anyways I met this girl there.

I was basically drunk when I first seen her and we all were dancing in front of the stage of some cover band. Me and her got pretty close and if you had seen us you would probably think we'd known each other for years. So we go eat after we left there with a bunch of friends. She decided to sit next to me. So I know her IL is pretty high becasue I pretty much ignored her the whole night other than when we were dancing. This could have been an reaction to my drunkeness.

So a couple of days ago I called her up. I had gotten her number at the resteraunt. We kinda played cat and mouse for a few days. Their was always some excuse for me and her not to be able to get together. Some of the times it was mine and sometimes it was hers.

So today she called me up. By the way, I know she has a boyfriend. So she calls me and asks me what I am doing tonight. Well I told her I can't go anywhere because my vehicle is in the shop (which it is) and that maybe we can do something tomorrow. And after we small talked she mentioned how drunk I was the night at riverbend. I was like yeah I know that doesn't happen to often. And she says well don't drink when we go out. She says I want to get to know you and I don't want you to drink.

I understand where she is coming from becasue I was probaly an @$$hole that night but she doesn't even know me and she is already trying to boss me around. And then she is planning on us going to eat. She was like well don't eat dinner tomorrow and you and me go eat. Its like she is trying to run the show. Should I go eat since I already cancelled the first date or should I suggest we go do something else. Like ****.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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WaterTiger

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She isn't trying to control you, she just thinks you're a drunk and is probably going to hook you up with the local AA.

I agree with ProtoMan1, next her. If she'll cheat on her BF, she'll cheat on you.
 

djbr

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Think from another angle: drunk people can't fvck.

FVCK AND BAIL!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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justsomeguy1984

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I think you are over-reacting a little. She is just telling you not to drink because she wants to know YOU, not the person you are when you are drunk. As for the dinner thing, it sounds like she strongly wants to go out with you, and that is why she is being so assertive.

As for her boyfriend, who gives a fvck? she is obviously interested in you. If you go out with her once, you will know afterward if she only wants you as a friend or wants something more. If she only wants to be friends then you can next her after the first date.
 
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