"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The girl I'm dating has severe depression...

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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put her on the back burner!!
 
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Sounds like you have made a decision. I jsut came out of a 2 year relationship with a girl with depression. She is a nice, smart and good looking girl but after she went off zoloft she was irritable all the time. In the end, it just wasn't worth it. Good chance girls with depression with have severe post natal depression
 
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I dated someone with depression and mental problems. Everything seemed normal - if you were not paying attention. But in the end, it was too much maintenance, too much care and patience required. You really have to love someone to stick around. I'm a bit selfish right now and need to worry about my own problems and challenges, so I broke that one off.

Back burner? I'd recommend moving on.
 
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if you're interested to know how to avoid and spot chicks with mental problems, watch the episode of 'the mighty boosh' series 3 featuring the 'strange tail of the crack fox'. that's what a mental chick's like.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My interest level in her has dropped to negative numbers, I only make contact for support, since I've been in a similar situation I try to help the way I can without putting myself in the line of fire....
 
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