You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yeah. Listen to what she says. Girls aren't always being as cryptic as we think they are. You are in danger of over-qualifying her - in a kind of reversed psychology kind of way, she might think that you want her to love youHer: "I don't love people that easily. It's nothing personal about you. I really do like you though and I do enjoy spending time with you. I had fun on our last date. I do want to see you again. I really do want to see more of the photos. Did you photos not come out that good? I don't care what a web site says."
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I don't think we can rate the raters and undo the ratings. The rating site is a constant. I've run the same photos 6 months apart and they score consistently.And, speaking of validation, she's right. You need to give that 'ratings' website sh!t a rest. Why do you care so much what a bunch of under-sexed basement-dwellers think of the women you date? That is pure validation seeking mate, and is pretty lame. No offense, like.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Real men show photos of hotter women (and themselves).
What do you rate her as, particularly in that photo? And what would be a 9 or 10 just for a frame of reference?Real men show photos of hotter women (and themselves).
Bitter betas try to knock other men and women down.
Well, she is 20, blue eyed, Caucasian, tall, got hired at the best strip club to work nights, is not overweight, and has real boobs, so girls like that are always at least a 6. I give her a 7.5.What do you rate her as, particularly in that photo? And what would be a 9 or 10 just for a frame of reference?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This was a bad photo of her that scored only 26. Hence why a girl who scores 99 is rare.
I love the site. It even pointed out that you were correct about that not being a great photo. If the site were random, then if you posted the same photo 6 months apart, would it come out to the exact same score?Neither of those girls are my type at all but I just wanted your frame of reference because the second one seems nowhere near as good as the first (blonde). Second one does come off as fat and a bit damaged looking but Blondie has a bit of life in her.
I don't care what rating is websites say. Tbh that **** is just for week faggots without their own opinions, hence asking for YOUR frame of reference.


I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.