"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The Girl I Fired

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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:D When guys play their hand first, they literally can't help themselves.
 

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She has now texted me 10 straight days.

My last girl took 6 months before I reached this point.
 

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It went like this:

Me: "I think you're in love with me."
Her: "That might be a stretch!"
Me: "I like maybe?"
Her: (crickets)
Me: "You're fired."
(20 hours goes by)
Her: "I don't love people that easily. It's nothing personal about you. I really do like you though and I do enjoy spending time with you. I had fun on our last date. I do want to see you again. I really do want to see more of the photos. Did you photos not come out that good? I don't care what a web site says... please send more photos!"

(20 more texts from her)
 

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Her: "I don't love people that easily. It's nothing personal about you. I really do like you though and I do enjoy spending time with you. I had fun on our last date. I do want to see you again. I really do want to see more of the photos. Did you photos not come out that good? I don't care what a web site says."
Yeah. Listen to what she says. Girls aren't always being as cryptic as we think they are. You are in danger of over-qualifying her - in a kind of reversed psychology kind of way, she might think that you want her to love you :D Sarcasm and irony don't really travel well in text, and it might easily come across as you seeking her validation.

And, speaking of validation, she's right. You need to give that 'ratings' website sh!t a rest. Why do you care so much what a bunch of under-sexed basement-dwellers think of the women you date? That is pure validation seeking mate, and is pretty lame. No offense, like.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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And, speaking of validation, she's right. You need to give that 'ratings' website sh!t a rest. Why do you care so much what a bunch of under-sexed basement-dwellers think of the women you date? That is pure validation seeking mate, and is pretty lame. No offense, like.
I don't think we can rate the raters and undo the ratings. The rating site is a constant. I've run the same photos 6 months apart and they score consistently.

The ratings site knocks these girls off their high horses - they think they are 10's. It was the fact this one didn't score as high that made my interest go down - guess what effect that had on her interest level?

Without a consensus I can't compare photos properly. I'm seeking photos rated 99/99/99. That is the goal. I'm trying to find girls who I think will deliver. My last girl rated 98/98/98 and 99/98/97 in her best two photos.
 

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So Monday night we broke up (she said "I'm fed up, good night" and I replied "Do guys your age really put up with you? I suppose if you pay for drinks...." and she was furious. But then I texted "forgive me" and she literally sent 5 texts (now 11 out of 12 days of texting), called my cell phone, emailed, called my land line (to apologize and confess her love) and then sent 5 texts singing my praises (I'm the most well put together man she knows). Could firing girls be the key? Come to think of it, the key point of my last relationship was when I threatened to fire her. It's like Marriage 1.0. They do what we say, or they starve. Ah, the good old days!
 

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After getting her to send 25 text messages today, I got her to agree to a 2.5 hour round trip via Uber so she will visit me tomorrow.

This is key: you get them to chase hard, then get them to do things they never imagined they would do. Months later they will confess how much they were impressed when they realized they had fallen to that degree.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Real men show photos of hotter women (and themselves).

Bitter betas try to knock other men and women down.
What do you rate her as, particularly in that photo? And what would be a 9 or 10 just for a frame of reference?
 

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What do you rate her as, particularly in that photo? And what would be a 9 or 10 just for a frame of reference?
Well, she is 20, blue eyed, Caucasian, tall, got hired at the best strip club to work nights, is not overweight, and has real boobs, so girls like that are always at least a 6. I give her a 7.5.
 

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As a frame of reference for an HB9, my last model will always be the benchmark. No girl scored higher. Here's a true apples to apples - on that same train car. No comparison. The other girl's legs look fat now that I see them side by side.


 

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Here is what Photofeeler rated her - show me the girls you are dating.


 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Neither of those girls are my type at all but I just wanted your frame of reference because the second one seems nowhere near as good as the first (blonde). Second one does come off as fat and a bit damaged looking but Blondie has a bit of life in her.

I don't care what rating is websites say. Tbh that **** is just for week faggots without their own opinions, hence asking for YOUR frame of reference.
 

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Neither of those girls are my type at all but I just wanted your frame of reference because the second one seems nowhere near as good as the first (blonde). Second one does come off as fat and a bit damaged looking but Blondie has a bit of life in her.

I don't care what rating is websites say. Tbh that **** is just for week faggots without their own opinions, hence asking for YOUR frame of reference.
I love the site. It even pointed out that you were correct about that not being a great photo. If the site were random, then if you posted the same photo 6 months apart, would it come out to the exact same score?

Here was the highest rated photo ever, one of my happiest moments with her.



Here was her second highest rated photo (taken 6 months prior).

 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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