"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The girl agreed to homecoming... but

Michele l'Arcangelo

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The girl agreed to go to homecoming with me on Saturday, 9/17...

I don't know if she has a dress and the dance is in 2 weekends, 10/8

I don't want to keep asking her about the dance, but I don't know if she has a dress, or what color it is if she has one.

I don't want to keep asking about the dance, because I'd think it would get kinda annoying.


But I need to know what color to make the corsage, and what tie and shirt color to match her to wear to the dance.

Should I ask her this Friday and see if she has a dress -- if not, then go shopping with her to get it?

Or ask her the next time I speak to her (today)?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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familyguyfan

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Are you serious? How can you be yelling at Viper for asking all his dumbass questions, then be asking this?

I'm sorry to sound like an ass, I just think this is a dumb question.


Just ask her what color her dress is. If she hasn't gotten it yet, then tell her to tell you what color it is when she gets it.
 

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I agree with familyman, i mean you make it sound like its a big deal:crackup:

Say, "i wonder if i would like your dress" she'll be like "yea you'll love it, its green with blah................." You know how girls talk
Late
 

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Originally posted by familyguyfan
Are you serious? How can you be yelling at Viper for asking all his dumbass questions, then be asking this?

I'm sorry to sound like an ass, I just think this is a dumb question.


Just ask her what color her dress is. If she hasn't gotten it yet, then tell her to tell you what color it is when she gets it.
No, i don't yell at Viper, i write random dumb questions to DO something, but he makes excuses why he SHOULDN'T.
 

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So you are confirming that you are writing random dumb questions?.....

1. It's really not a big deal, just ask her what her dress color is/will be.

2. Do you really need to match her? Do you guys have to look, 'cute' or something?

3. Why would you want to go dress shopping with her for a few hours?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Michele l'Arcangelo

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Originally posted by Zod
So you are confirming that you are writing random dumb questions?.....

1. It's really not a big deal, just ask her what her dress color is/will be.

2. Do you really need to match her? Do you guys have to look, 'cute' or something?

3. Why would you want to go dress shopping with her for a few hours?
Well, we do take pictures together at the dance... and i pretty much want to get my own tie and shirt... but i don't really want to see her buying a dress.... but seeing her change all the time could be pretty good too and spending ONE weekend AT LEAST to be with her couldnt hurt, since i have't seen her in a month or two...

I went to the mall w/ my friend... then she told me to help her look at dresses... i got pretty tired of it.
 

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Don't make this bigger than what it is. I'm sure the girl has a dress and everything. You're a "DJ" right? right. Therefore, handle your business. And if you like this girl, you'd better show her that your confident and in control because right now you are seriously freaking out.

Good Luck.:cool:
 

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DUDE GET OVER IT. You get her a white corsage and hopefully she'll have a dress, becuase to hang out with a don juan at homecoming without one, is like having a gun to your head and shooting your own face.
 
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