"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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the "game" doesnt work for me

styleman

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Last night I went for an uncles family dinner. My girlfriend told me not to go, I said that she's being ridiculous and went, she said I was out all day (working) and then leaving her alone. I went regardless for the dinner. When I get back she's sleeping and not responding. In the morning she screams and screams, theatens break up a few times to which I say do what you want and obviously she backs down a bit but continues arguing. This went on till 3pm till I give up on trying to be a "DJ" and say I'm sorry... only then does she stop fighting and she says she thought I was meeting another girl too (I was not) and only after I gave her relatives numbers did she feel more secure.
What is going on guys? How do I get the game to work for me? Seriously I didn't want to apologize but nothing else would shut her up. The more ****y responses I gave her, the more she would make threats and fight.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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devilkingx2

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you just lost a battle of wills

it's too bad, you were totally in the right

also, your GF's personality(and this whole post in general) sounds like a red flag
 

MtnMan

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major red flag man. You lost a battle of wills when you were completely in the right. Not good.
 

Don-Kong

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What game are you playing? You have a girlfriend. If you don't want to be with her and can't be yourself around her, you're effectively sabotaging your own happiness.
 

Redwood

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Red flags all over the place here, brother.

The entire "fight" here was obviously a test of your masculinity.

You should have just walked away, stopped contacting, and continue focusing on self-improvement.

Do not try to let a girl (or anyone in that matter) bring your self-esteem down.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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styleman

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Redwood said:
Red flags all over the place here, brother.

The entire "fight" here was obviously a test of your masculinity.

You should have just walked away, stopped contacting, and continue focusing on self-improvement.

Do not try to let a girl (or anyone in that matter) bring your self-esteem down.
I kept trying to do this, every time she would come follow me, and start fighting with me, there was literally no way out.

Things I can understand:
- She wanted to spend time with me
- She felt insecure that I was going on a date

Things I don't understand
- I don't stop her from attending family dinners
- Was it worth wasting the following day over if I went for my uncle's dinner
- Threatening break up, then backing down completely when I say go ahead
- Making me apologise. What for?
 

VladPatton

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What do you mean what do you do??? The answer is beyond simple. You dump this crazy b!tch and you get another girlfriend.
 

Albatross953

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Dude down the line, married with kids will be fifty times worse with this chick.

Another vote for dump.
 

Mr. Kalikoat

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She sounds like an insecure unstable egocentric drama queen. I've been there. My ex was just like that.

Another vote for dump.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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