After 30 years of dating beautiful women, I was reflecting on the fact that in every single case, no matter how much they loved me (and my first love from 1987 just messaged me), there always came a time when they would pull away. It was probably the most frustrating thing I ever dealt with in my life. I wrote complete animation systems from scratch (unheard of since Max/Maya), but could never truly solve the problem of women pulling away at some point.
Until my last breakup that is, when I had to walk away from the girl of my dreams. It wasn't until then that I finally stopped fighting it. I just accepted that this is simply part of the process. I realized that there is analogy that can describe relationships.
You start out observing a fresh, ripe piece of fruit, something you need to survive (or at least to procreate). So you pick it, and you taste it, and you consume it, and you swallow the seeds. Eventually the fruit is gone, and you (in the old days at least) would travel with your new energy and excrete the seed, but let's say we were into seed saving by that point.
You must plant the seed.
It takes time to grow, and if you don't cultivate it (i.e., you freak out when you have no fruit), it won't ever grow back and you'll have to go find new fruit or starve. However, if you do cultivate it, it does grow back (it's hard to tell how long it will take, but nearly always within a year) and suddenly you have more fruit (and hopefully you planted Pole Beans). So we need to plant multiple items and rotate crops to always have fruit.
Until my last breakup that is, when I had to walk away from the girl of my dreams. It wasn't until then that I finally stopped fighting it. I just accepted that this is simply part of the process. I realized that there is analogy that can describe relationships.
You start out observing a fresh, ripe piece of fruit, something you need to survive (or at least to procreate). So you pick it, and you taste it, and you consume it, and you swallow the seeds. Eventually the fruit is gone, and you (in the old days at least) would travel with your new energy and excrete the seed, but let's say we were into seed saving by that point.
You must plant the seed.
It takes time to grow, and if you don't cultivate it (i.e., you freak out when you have no fruit), it won't ever grow back and you'll have to go find new fruit or starve. However, if you do cultivate it, it does grow back (it's hard to tell how long it will take, but nearly always within a year) and suddenly you have more fruit (and hopefully you planted Pole Beans). So we need to plant multiple items and rotate crops to always have fruit.
