"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The "Friendzone" and what it REALLY means.

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In the wonderful world of dating, there is such a hated, vile, disrespected and repulsive thing known as the "Friendszone" or "LJBF" AKA Lets just be friends, which actually translates to "I think you are sexually repulsive, and I wouldnt sleep with you even if you put a gun to my head"....It unfortunatley exists. There is nothing one can do about it, once he is put into the friendszone, but cut his losses, and move on. A true DJ refuses to be in the Friendszone, and leaves immediatley after hearing these words. An AFC sticks around, and hangs around the object of his unrequited desires, while she shops and watches movies, and even goes clubbing. She eventually picks up a man in front of him, and he soon becomes the emotional tampon, and gets to hear stories of how the lousy SOB wont even call the AM after anal sex.

The best revenge for being put in the friendszone is dating a better looking woman right in front of the old object of desire. Thoughts on this matter?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JackPrescott said:
The best revenge for being put in the friendszone is dating a better looking woman

You are right here.


right in front of the old object of desire.

and not right here.
If your goal is to show off to the girl who LJBF'd you, just hire an escort. If your goal is the live life to the fullest and be the best you can be so the better looking women will want to be with you, spend time with you and eventually want to sleep with you, then you may be on to something.
 

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JackPrescott said:
The best revenge for being put in the friendszone.
You sound like someone just put you in the friendzone?
 

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Andromax said:
You sound like someone just put you in the friendzone?
If I am working on 7 gals, at least 2-3 will put me there, and it happens often. I am not a millionaire, so I dont have a 110% success rate. But it keeps you on your toes, and thinking on your feet. The trick is to be so busy with other options, that you barely have time to lament the loss.
 

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DonJuan11 said:
If your goal is to show off to the girl who LJBF'd you, just hire an escort. If your goal is the live life to the fullest and be the best you can be so the better looking women will want to be with you, spend time with you and eventually want to sleep with you, then you may be on to something.
The goal is that, plus revenge. Remember, Wrath of Khan? "There is an ancient Kliingon Proverb that states that Revenge is a dish that is best served cold."
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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best revenge is to not even think about revenge and just move on with your life

dating someone as a jealousy plotline AFTER the rejection is still reacting to the original girl. in your head you're thinking, yea I'm getting her good. meanwhile, if she has any kind of social intelligence, she's thinking, he's doing it to get attention from me, who gives a sht

seriously, waht would bug you more. somebody acknowledging your existance, albiet in a negative way, or someone going on with their life as if you didn't even matter
 

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ready123 said:
best revenge is to not even think about revenge and just move on with your life

dating someone as a jealousy plotline AFTER the rejection is still reacting to the original girl. in your head you're thinking, yea I'm getting her good. meanwhile, if she has any kind of social intelligence, she's thinking, he's doing it to get attention from me, who gives a sht

seriously, waht would bug you more. somebody acknowledging your existance, albiet in a negative way, or someone going on with their life as if you didn't even matter
Negativity.
 

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haha.. he's just sore. He'll get over it. I believe in him.

As for me.. I broke my no contact with my ex a minute ago. I need to be shot.

She kept texting me and msging me on myspace.

Leave it to alcohol to **** that up.

Oh well all I said was Tom Seleck is the man!!
 
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""'Friend' zoned" means that she doesn't even want you as a friend!!! Don't you love the cruel irony!!!! :rolleyes:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Andromax said:
haha.. he's just sore. He'll get over it. I believe in him.

As for me.. I broke my no contact with my ex a minute ago. I need to be shot.

She kept texting me and msging me on myspace.

Leave it to alcohol to **** that up.

Oh well all I said was Tom Seleck is the man!!
Well, sore isnt the right word. What DJ or normal male likes to be friendszoned? It is a vile thing, it is disaffirmation of your malehood, it is "you arent good enough for me to mate with" it is rejection lite. Still, the fires of revenge keep one going.
 

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""'Friend' zoned" means that she doesn't even want you as a friend!!! Don't you love the cruel irony!!!! :rolleyes:
This is true. But in all reality, I dont do the male friends thing, so when a woman "LJBF" me it is an end to the entire transaction process. It is pointless to call or waste time and energy on her anymore.
 

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ready123 said:
sucks to be you
Does it? Do YOU enjoy losing, ready123? I certainly dont. I play to WIN. I am a highly competetive MOFO by nature, whether a powerlifting contest, a bodybuilding show, a kareokee contest, or a game of tiddly winks. I dont enjoy losing. When I was in High School, I was a player for a Championship Football Team. Getting that trophy, and medal around my neck was an intense rush. I entered an art contest (National) my senior year, and spent a semester on my entry, but guess what? It won First Award, and hung in the White House for a year. I attended a local powerlifting contest at the Y a few years later as a spectator and thought to myself "I can get up more than the trophy winners, and within 2 years, had won Best Overall Male.

Whether in a streetfight, or trying to woo a woman, I enjoy WINNING. I play to win, I have little interest in the game itself. Have you ever been confronted by a bully at the bar, and gotten your ass handed to you in front of your friends, and all the ladies? Was it a nice feeling? When I get in a streetfight, I fight to win.

With women, I dont do the "cold approach" By the time I have decided to come on to her, I have gotten some signals that she is interested. Unfortulatley, women being the fake ass flakes that they are spiritually, play little games with men, especially Attention W*hores. So what pisses me off, is not only losing, and being "Friendszoned" but wasting valuable time, energy and effort on them before they grow the intestinal fortitude AKA "Balls" to tell the male "No thanks, I wont ever fukk you, but we can be friends"

The entire concept makes me want to vomit.
 

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It's usually not good but you can be put in the friend zone thing if the chick is nervous about taking things fast.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Has anyone been put in the friendzone after they already banged her?
 

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reset said:
It's usually not good but you can be put in the friend zone thing if the chick is nervous about taking things fast.
This is true. If the case, once she sees that you have moved on, there is a 10% chance that she will miss your undivided attention, and that her female "catty" instincts will not be too happy about another woman getting it. Thats when you have her under your foot.
 

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I was wondering

If you are friends with a girl, and you just want to have a sexual relationship...just keep flirting and kinoing her often to stay out of the friend zone???
 

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crossboss said:
If you are friends with a girl, and you just want to have a sexual relationship...just keep flirting and kinoing her often to stay out of the friend zone???
This, mixed with letting her know in no uncertain terms that you are seeing other women could produce interesting results.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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