That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I know! She said that Dagny was the literary character that she could most relate to. They're also talking to Russell Crowe to play the part of Hank Rearden and may even work in a bit part for Patricia Neal!LovelyLady said:Hey Francisco-
Did you hear they are making a movie out of it?
Guess who is playing Dagny? ANGELINA JOLIE
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So what are you waiting for man?!! It's withing arms reach! Jump to it! :woo:reset said:I'm staring at about four Ayn Rand books right now. I read Fountain head several years ago, before I was in this DJ menatality. Atlas Shrugged, I havent' read it. They are so LONG, lol.
The movie didn't do the book any justice but Atlas, that's going to be another thing altogether. Originally it was going to be a trilogy with each movie being three hours in length!reset said:I remember the Fountainhead movie with Gary Cooper, which I watched after reading the book. Crazy that they would try to make a movie from something so intense back then. I bet the current versions of the films will be much more gritty and true to the books.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Jolie will be played down aesthetically. They're going make her one of those closet beauties who could be very attractive if she took a little time to make herself up. Her (lack of) acting ability will lend itself to Dagny's "cut to the chase" nature. The script will need to carry her with her interactions with Hank before she finds the gulch and with John after. The thing that I'm afraid of is a eerie feeling I have of them casting Antonio Banderas in a role. :nervous:LovelyLady said:I will be surprised if Jolie can pull off the sense of strength/intelligence/character that Dagny has though.
IMO, she has not had to play a multi-dimensional character since Girl Interrupted. She can do sexy - but can she pull off the depth of the character beyond the surface beauty? Swank could.
Also, Dagny was not found attractive by EVERY man - many characters found her sexually cold/undesirable. But I do understand the need for the film - for the viewers, en masse - to find her physically appealing.
I hope the film/Jolie's performance captures the more important characteristics of Dagny's - the underlying qualities that drove those particular men -and Galt specifically- to want to her.
I think Jolie's outer beauty could be a disservice to that aspect of Rand's creation. It will be interesting to see!
Oh, I see. It could work, then.Francisco d'Anconia said:Jolie will be played down aesthetically. They're going make her one of those closet beauties who could be very attractive if she took a little time to make herself up. Her (lack of) acting ability will lend itself to Dagny's "cut to the chase" nature. The script will need to carry her with her interactions with Hank before she finds the gulch and with John after.
Francisco d'Anconia said:The thing that I'm afraid of is a eerie feeling I have of them casting Antonio Banderas in a role. :nervous:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Not everyone can understand the concept, at least understand it enough to appreciate it.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.