"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BxPrince24

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K, I've known the girl i've been trying to get with for a long time, but after a fight a year and a half a go, we started talking again. So i've chilled with her twice now. Kept her laughing, got the talking and the kino up. Now I'm wondering when and how I should drop the kiss in.

I was reading the speed seduction stuff in the DJB, i guess i could try that and see how it goes. but I had some other options in my head. I could:

1. Work on getting the kino up more to where I can put my hands in most of her guarded zones without any pullback. (I'm sure that I can do that now, I just haven't done it yet this time around) Isolate. Then pull out some palm reading and go for the kiss there.

2. I can take something of hers and make her try to get it back and steal a kiss while she tries to reach for it.

3. Or with the speed seduction thing, when I get to the part, telling her how I told my friend how to please his woman. While I'm telling her about it, I could use my hand or finger and guide it up and down her body as I'm telling the story. (ex.. when i'm talking about doing something to her neck, my hand/finger is making the same movements on her neck) Then when I get to the end of it, just close in for the kiss.

I already know that she has no problem with me being in her personal space and we've kissed and stuff in the past. So which one of these do you think would be best suited or better off to go with?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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GloriouslyInsane

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Play with her hair,if she lets you do this go for the kiss. - Credit to DD :D
 

Nighthawk

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Tease her until she hits you, tickle her back, then escalate into a kiss.
 

BxPrince24

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Thanks. Both great suggestions. I think I may go with Nighthawk's approach tho. It's fun, there's kino going on, and I guess an easy way to drop it.
 

Jariel

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My first suggestion - forget the speed seduction! It's a gimmick!

Women react better to actions than words, and I'm sure all the experienced posters here will back me up on this, but kino and eye contact are key! Like you mentioned in your first suggestion, build up the kino and see how she responds. Tap her on the arm when you speak, touch her hand, put your arm round her, and if she responds well, you are in there.

Another tip I'll give is to get close to her, face to face a few times throughout the day. If she steps back, she may not be ready, but if she stands her ground, she wants you to kiss her!

As for going in for the kiss, get close, hold eye contact and slowly and gently lift her chin with your hand or turn her face towards you while looking into her eyes. She will know you are going to kiss her and this will build the anticipation.

Never spring the first kiss on her unexpectedly! Also remember one important piece of advice: if she wants you to kiss her, she will make it easy for you!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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