Die Hard
Master Don Juan
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I'm having difficulty with this lately.
I'm very good at seducing women, making them feel attracted to me, making their hormones rush. I just radiate confidence, make smart and witty comments, demonstrate dominance, act in a sexually attractive way etc. And so they fall for me, because I kinda sweep them off their feet, as if I injected them with some drug that makes them feel high.
Great, so the girl feels attracted to me. Then the texting game begins and I try to get her to meet up with me, and so we meet, and so we have a good time together, and so we end up in bed, and so we have more good times together etc etc. In the meantime, I try to find out if she's a good match for a long term relationship, because that's what I'm really after.
Almost always, it turns out she isn't... And eventually, we go our own ways.
I'm tired of going through that whole process. I want to find out if she's a good long term match as soon as possible! But I've noticed that it turns women off if I do that. Like if I start asking too many questions too fast in order to determine how much of a 'relationship material' she is, she will lose interest. I get it, it probably makes me seem "boring", too serious, no fun etc.
In general, women chase a man when he's not hinting at getting into a serious relationship but is actually doing the opposite and acts like he doesn't want to get "trapped" into a relationship with one girl, because he'd rather be independent and have fun with multiple girls. It's like, instinctually, women want to convince a man to go for a relationship with just them, they want him to choose her above all the other girls and commit to her.
If the guy gives her that commitment too easily, she feels 'bored' or feels that he posed not enough challenge for her to make her feel special, as if he is so desperate for a relationship that he will just accept any girl that offers it to him.
Blah blah blah, so when you give them too many signs too early that you're looking for a serious relationship, it will drive them away. I've tested this plenty of times, it's just how they're wired.
But I'm sick and tired of dating and investing in that whole process, only to find out after weeks or months that the girl is not a good match for me. I'm getting old and I want to start a family, so I want to find a good woman who will give me a stable relationship and be a good mother to my children. Of course I don't tell them that, but it often shows through my behavior, they notice that I'm a serious guy with serious intentions and it drives them away.
So I just have to keep it a secret lol. I have to put on a mask and play the role of the guy I described earlier, the one who doesn't need women except for fun and doesn't want to get trapped in a relationship etc. Once we get through that first phase of dating, having good sex, having a lot of fun together, they always start their attempts to pin me down and want me to go for a serious relationship. If I try to seriously determine whether she is a good long term match before this moment, I drive her away lol.
But at that point, I've already invested quite some time and effort into her, and many times I've also developed some feelings for her by that time. It's too late, for my taste... I need to form my opinion about her earlier.
So yeah, it's a balancing act. I want to know whether she's a good fit for settling down and eventually starting a family. But I can't be too direct in my attempts to evaluate her on the one hand, and I don't want to invest too much time and effort in her before I find my answer on the other hand.
Anyone else recognize this?
I'm very good at seducing women, making them feel attracted to me, making their hormones rush. I just radiate confidence, make smart and witty comments, demonstrate dominance, act in a sexually attractive way etc. And so they fall for me, because I kinda sweep them off their feet, as if I injected them with some drug that makes them feel high.
Great, so the girl feels attracted to me. Then the texting game begins and I try to get her to meet up with me, and so we meet, and so we have a good time together, and so we end up in bed, and so we have more good times together etc etc. In the meantime, I try to find out if she's a good match for a long term relationship, because that's what I'm really after.
Almost always, it turns out she isn't... And eventually, we go our own ways.
I'm tired of going through that whole process. I want to find out if she's a good long term match as soon as possible! But I've noticed that it turns women off if I do that. Like if I start asking too many questions too fast in order to determine how much of a 'relationship material' she is, she will lose interest. I get it, it probably makes me seem "boring", too serious, no fun etc.
In general, women chase a man when he's not hinting at getting into a serious relationship but is actually doing the opposite and acts like he doesn't want to get "trapped" into a relationship with one girl, because he'd rather be independent and have fun with multiple girls. It's like, instinctually, women want to convince a man to go for a relationship with just them, they want him to choose her above all the other girls and commit to her.
If the guy gives her that commitment too easily, she feels 'bored' or feels that he posed not enough challenge for her to make her feel special, as if he is so desperate for a relationship that he will just accept any girl that offers it to him.
Blah blah blah, so when you give them too many signs too early that you're looking for a serious relationship, it will drive them away. I've tested this plenty of times, it's just how they're wired.
But I'm sick and tired of dating and investing in that whole process, only to find out after weeks or months that the girl is not a good match for me. I'm getting old and I want to start a family, so I want to find a good woman who will give me a stable relationship and be a good mother to my children. Of course I don't tell them that, but it often shows through my behavior, they notice that I'm a serious guy with serious intentions and it drives them away.
So I just have to keep it a secret lol. I have to put on a mask and play the role of the guy I described earlier, the one who doesn't need women except for fun and doesn't want to get trapped in a relationship etc. Once we get through that first phase of dating, having good sex, having a lot of fun together, they always start their attempts to pin me down and want me to go for a serious relationship. If I try to seriously determine whether she is a good long term match before this moment, I drive her away lol.
But at that point, I've already invested quite some time and effort into her, and many times I've also developed some feelings for her by that time. It's too late, for my taste... I need to form my opinion about her earlier.
So yeah, it's a balancing act. I want to know whether she's a good fit for settling down and eventually starting a family. But I can't be too direct in my attempts to evaluate her on the one hand, and I don't want to invest too much time and effort in her before I find my answer on the other hand.
Anyone else recognize this?