"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The final straw. Just ended thing 100% with BPD

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Whats up boyo's

So ive made a few threads on this chick and the finale has come.

Last night st patricks day I was driving across state to my families. She said she had plans to hang with her gfs for a couple drinks/apps, then she was gonna go workout at 10pm then go home and work early the next day. Of course I let it all go and let her do her thing and of course none of what she said happened lol. The next morning I broke up with her (today).

Just told her that was the finale. I cannot accept my woman going out downtown getting fkked up drinking and being out all night and not going home, especially when shes with her sloot friend. So I had a feeling it was gonna go down like this so I packed all my stuff before I left.

Now shes texting/calling trying to work things out. But I can finally say Im free brothers. The relationship had its ups and downs and definitely made me more intelligent when dealing with mentally ill or unstable people.

At the end of the day shes not horrible, just damaged. Im damaged in my own ways and we all are thats why we are here working on our broken attributes.

But I jsut could not cope or deal with imagining my girlfriend who i love being out downtown getting wasted with guys surrounding her, touching her, laughing an joking leaning in all close in the loud and crowded bar. Just the amount of emotional an physical betrayel I cannot accept it. Her going against my wishes last night was the culmination of everything that was wrong in our relationship.

I wouldnt take it back tho, It was an interesting year to say the least and Im stronger for it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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BPD's aren't for ltr's, they are a law unto themselves.

You did the right thing by getting out, one thing I've learned with bpd's is that your gut instincts are usually always true, if you aren't wanting her to go out because you fear she will cheat, she most likely will.

With non disordered women there's a line between common sense and paranoia, with bpds that line isn't there.

Enjoy the freedom.
 

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Block number. Delete number.

Block Facebook.

Block Instagram

ZERO contact.

Now go enjoy your life. Fingers crossed your next one isn't BPD
 

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Thanks gents...she's been trying to reel me back in with the crying and the promises she didnt do anything that night like cheating blablabla..but ive been out WITH her...and I know the looks, the stares...walking away to the bathroom come back and see some dude trying to talk etc. and thats WHEN IMTHERE lol. Now I can only imagine her out solo with her slut friend (who has been tag teamed, been in 4 somes etc). shes a slut...anyway I can only imagine them out, with my gf mad at me getting egged on by her friends and getting drunk as fuk, not going home, minimal communication. etc

I think about it and it PISSES me off. So like I said she begged for another chance and all this and that. But no way. I already moved a few hours away to another city. Not going to do this again. She told me all sorts of lies about how her "friend" is a slut and she now knows its a toxic friendship blablaba everything I wanna hear. The next day see her posting pics of her and slut friend working out haha. fkin ay
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What Lozboss said. Zero contact and never let her back in.
 

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If I could think of anything positive to say about being in a LTR with a BPD woman, I would say it below:

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Congrats. But please don't say she's BPD in the title if you aren't going to give any reason why she is. She just sounds like a normal slut here.
 

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Congrats. But please don't say she's BPD in the title if you aren't going to give any reason why she is. She just sounds like a normal slut here.
Right! Isn't is scary what the new normal for a woman has become?
 

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I opened the post by saying this is a chick ive made threads about before...ive explained all of her BPD behavior in previous threads...but to give you an idea..

- dissacociated
- extreme mood swings, flips on a dime
- self harming
- self hatred/feelings of not good enough
- alot of crying/emotional
- anxiety
-on meds
- mommy/daddy issues
- alcohol problems
- has become violent (punched herself, tried to jump out of moving vehicle etc)
- has attacked me


on the flipside

- 95% of the time does what I want (besides the crazy)
- is a nice girl at her core...just has this mental sickness going on
- took me in and saved me thousands on rent (I do appreciate that lol)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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