Have a read of this and the response from a female love doctor....a great insight on how the female mind thinks today. Shocking to say the least.
Dear Lucia,
I have been dating a married man for four years. I try to leave him at least 2 times per year, but I can't because I really love him. I have a son who has emotional asthma. When I tried to leave my husband (his father), my son got so sick that he spent two weeks on the hospital.
How can I get money benefits from my lover? He owns two airplanes and four buildings. I am his savior when he has troubles or stress. He consults with me about every important step in his life; I just don't have the will to ask for some things that I need and which my husband cannot provide. My husband and I live together only for the sake of my son's health. He doesn't care about what I need; he just cares for his son.
I' m open to whatever you would like to say to me, even insults. My economical situation is not the best and maybe I can use some tactics to get out of the sinking boat. Julia
Dear Julia,
You are in a tough spot. Although you don't mention what types of things you need which your husband doesn't provide, I'm going to assume these are not clothes and shoes. Is your lover aware of your financial situation? If so, then I'm surprised that he hasn't offered to help.
Since leaving your husband is currently out of the question, then you need to ask your lover for assistance. If he loves you, he will want to help. If he doesn't love you and/or he is cheap, he won't want to help.
At that point, you will have to leave him. Don't worry, it won't be permanent. If you are such an important part of his life that he consults with you on everything, then you are a very valuable asset to him. People often don't realize what they have until it's gone.
Let him experience life without you for a while. I am almost certain that at some point he will realize he needs you in his life, and will be willing to help you out.
Dear Lucia,
I have been dating a married man for four years. I try to leave him at least 2 times per year, but I can't because I really love him. I have a son who has emotional asthma. When I tried to leave my husband (his father), my son got so sick that he spent two weeks on the hospital.
How can I get money benefits from my lover? He owns two airplanes and four buildings. I am his savior when he has troubles or stress. He consults with me about every important step in his life; I just don't have the will to ask for some things that I need and which my husband cannot provide. My husband and I live together only for the sake of my son's health. He doesn't care about what I need; he just cares for his son.
I' m open to whatever you would like to say to me, even insults. My economical situation is not the best and maybe I can use some tactics to get out of the sinking boat. Julia
Dear Julia,
You are in a tough spot. Although you don't mention what types of things you need which your husband doesn't provide, I'm going to assume these are not clothes and shoes. Is your lover aware of your financial situation? If so, then I'm surprised that he hasn't offered to help.
Since leaving your husband is currently out of the question, then you need to ask your lover for assistance. If he loves you, he will want to help. If he doesn't love you and/or he is cheap, he won't want to help.
At that point, you will have to leave him. Don't worry, it won't be permanent. If you are such an important part of his life that he consults with you on everything, then you are a very valuable asset to him. People often don't realize what they have until it's gone.
Let him experience life without you for a while. I am almost certain that at some point he will realize he needs you in his life, and will be willing to help you out.
