jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
Hello friends!
I always bring you updates on my experience in the field.
Today we'll talk about couples, whether they're in a relationship, with or without children, married or not, but all at least cohabiting.
We'll focus on real-life experiences.
We were talking about how a woman in a couple was very tired, always waking up at night between 3 and 5 because her 1-year-old baby was crying. She was complaining about how her partner wasn't there to help her, but how he would come home late from work, and after doing his chores, he'd go to sleep on the couch, while she had to shoulder all the burden, having to look after her two children in another room. She couldn't get any sleep.
So, another couple responded to this. In fact, this other friend of mine told that they actually take turns, because one night he sleeps, and the other night she sleeps, and that if he hadn't helped, there would be trouble for him (he jokingly calls her "the officier").
These are all couples under 35.
Another day, my uncle was talking to my aunt, and she keeps complaining even though he seems to actually do what he's supposed to do,he has a job, he even takes care of the house, sometimes the grocery shopping, he's helpful, etc, and she keeps complaining.
They're still together after 40 years of marriage.
It seems like the further down the list you go, the more unlikely it is for a woman to constantly complain about something in a couple. In these cases, the man simply tolerates this behavior.
That said, my feeling about these couples is that men are "afraid" of never being able to find the same bond, intimacy, connection or reprocitation they'd experienced with these women, and so they accept the compromise of hearing her complain every now and then, even when the complaint might be a personal attack.
I then personally asked both men and women in these relationships for confirmation, and the women gave me vague answers, while the men confirmed what I suspected, but I definitely think the same is true for women: both simply don't want to put in the effort and are afraid of losing the only person they have this bond with, even if things aren't going as they should.
---- The quest ----
So we could argue that it's easy to leave a relationship, find a new woman, and stay focused on your life, but actually, how many of you have truly regretted losing forever a bond so special that you were never able to find it again?
And yet, how many of you can say with certainty that what you had is now at a lower level, because you've found something even better?
What is your general perspective on having to let go of things you hold valuable because of obstacles, and having to start a new bond from scratch?
From a personal experience, I don't know how to explain it, but I, who have had very few women, have never been able to find intimacy, connection, understanding, and bond like I did with my third girlfriend.
It's as if we were walking the same path and thinking the same way. It's difficult to explain, but I hope you've already experienced it to answer fully.
I always bring you updates on my experience in the field.
Today we'll talk about couples, whether they're in a relationship, with or without children, married or not, but all at least cohabiting.
We'll focus on real-life experiences.
We were talking about how a woman in a couple was very tired, always waking up at night between 3 and 5 because her 1-year-old baby was crying. She was complaining about how her partner wasn't there to help her, but how he would come home late from work, and after doing his chores, he'd go to sleep on the couch, while she had to shoulder all the burden, having to look after her two children in another room. She couldn't get any sleep.
So, another couple responded to this. In fact, this other friend of mine told that they actually take turns, because one night he sleeps, and the other night she sleeps, and that if he hadn't helped, there would be trouble for him (he jokingly calls her "the officier").
These are all couples under 35.
Another day, my uncle was talking to my aunt, and she keeps complaining even though he seems to actually do what he's supposed to do,he has a job, he even takes care of the house, sometimes the grocery shopping, he's helpful, etc, and she keeps complaining.
They're still together after 40 years of marriage.
It seems like the further down the list you go, the more unlikely it is for a woman to constantly complain about something in a couple. In these cases, the man simply tolerates this behavior.
That said, my feeling about these couples is that men are "afraid" of never being able to find the same bond, intimacy, connection or reprocitation they'd experienced with these women, and so they accept the compromise of hearing her complain every now and then, even when the complaint might be a personal attack.
I then personally asked both men and women in these relationships for confirmation, and the women gave me vague answers, while the men confirmed what I suspected, but I definitely think the same is true for women: both simply don't want to put in the effort and are afraid of losing the only person they have this bond with, even if things aren't going as they should.
---- The quest ----
So we could argue that it's easy to leave a relationship, find a new woman, and stay focused on your life, but actually, how many of you have truly regretted losing forever a bond so special that you were never able to find it again?
And yet, how many of you can say with certainty that what you had is now at a lower level, because you've found something even better?
What is your general perspective on having to let go of things you hold valuable because of obstacles, and having to start a new bond from scratch?
From a personal experience, I don't know how to explain it, but I, who have had very few women, have never been able to find intimacy, connection, understanding, and bond like I did with my third girlfriend.
It's as if we were walking the same path and thinking the same way. It's difficult to explain, but I hope you've already experienced it to answer fully.
