"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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the Fear of Failure

V-men

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I think this could be one of my best posts made on the internet concerning seduction.

A quick intro:
I'm almost 21 years, I'm like 2.5 year in the community. Read a lot of stuff, met a lot of pua's, sarged with them etc. Made huge progress the last years. But I wasn't happy with the results.

A few week ago, I did the Don Juan bootcamp. I'm sarging like a god. Opening 10's and getting IOI's like hell. The first 3 weeks are going super. Week 4 challenge is to fail 10x in approaching. I'm like frozen, I just can't do it. It sounds stupid but I just can't do it. I begin to doubt if I'm gay or something :S
What the heck is the problem with me. I can't go approach girls and get rejected. I decided to stop the bootcamp and to think about it.

Weeks go bye, and I still haven't figured it out. I'm on study internship and we are asked to write down what my negative qualities are. I wrote down. I postpone often things. My mentor mentions that I should think about the underlying meaning of it. After a few hours I come to the conclusion that the fear of failure is holding me back. That's why I postpone with my school/business. Also that's the great problem with girls. I think about it and I'm remembered how well the first 3 weeks went with the bootcamp.

I come to the conclusion that my fear of failure is holding me back from achieveing great succes in my life. When I achieve small succes, I'm so affraid to lose that small succes, it just paralyzes me, so I don't go for the highest succes. I game a 10 but the fear of failure is holding me back to sleep with her. I'm affraid to make a step fearing I'll lose her. My fear of failure is holding me back from being succesfull and happy.

I found a nice article about this subject http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/

Eventually you must get rid of the fear of failure to be succesfull in your life. It's just a stupid mechanism in your brains which is holding you back.
V-men
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MillenniumMike

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I always see that on bootcamp guides, the getting rejected test is only used to get people comfortable with getting rejected. If it does not bother you, skip that portion. I dislike that mentality of going out to get rejected. It works but, rejection is something everyone has to get over in some way. I have to ask..... With all of those 10's you opened.... did you number or full close all of them?
 

Willis

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Failure is gonna happen...deal wit it...and dont look at it as failure...look at it as your learning experience...
 
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