Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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the Fear of Failure

V-men

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I think this could be one of my best posts made on the internet concerning seduction.

A quick intro:
I'm almost 21 years, I'm like 2.5 year in the community. Read a lot of stuff, met a lot of pua's, sarged with them etc. Made huge progress the last years. But I wasn't happy with the results.

A few week ago, I did the Don Juan bootcamp. I'm sarging like a god. Opening 10's and getting IOI's like hell. The first 3 weeks are going super. Week 4 challenge is to fail 10x in approaching. I'm like frozen, I just can't do it. It sounds stupid but I just can't do it. I begin to doubt if I'm gay or something :S
What the heck is the problem with me. I can't go approach girls and get rejected. I decided to stop the bootcamp and to think about it.

Weeks go bye, and I still haven't figured it out. I'm on study internship and we are asked to write down what my negative qualities are. I wrote down. I postpone often things. My mentor mentions that I should think about the underlying meaning of it. After a few hours I come to the conclusion that the fear of failure is holding me back. That's why I postpone with my school/business. Also that's the great problem with girls. I think about it and I'm remembered how well the first 3 weeks went with the bootcamp.

I come to the conclusion that my fear of failure is holding me back from achieveing great succes in my life. When I achieve small succes, I'm so affraid to lose that small succes, it just paralyzes me, so I don't go for the highest succes. I game a 10 but the fear of failure is holding me back to sleep with her. I'm affraid to make a step fearing I'll lose her. My fear of failure is holding me back from being succesfull and happy.

I found a nice article about this subject http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/overcome-fear-of-failure/

Eventually you must get rid of the fear of failure to be succesfull in your life. It's just a stupid mechanism in your brains which is holding you back.
V-men
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MillenniumMike

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I always see that on bootcamp guides, the getting rejected test is only used to get people comfortable with getting rejected. If it does not bother you, skip that portion. I dislike that mentality of going out to get rejected. It works but, rejection is something everyone has to get over in some way. I have to ask..... With all of those 10's you opened.... did you number or full close all of them?
 

Willis

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Failure is gonna happen...deal wit it...and dont look at it as failure...look at it as your learning experience...
 
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