"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Fastest way to get laid with a lot of hot women within 1-2 years.

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If you really want to get laid and have a 100 plus lay count, then follow this post now!

Requirements:

Age: The younger the better, but I can't help you if you are over 50ish. If you are in college or college age, then this is your golden opportunity.
Bodyfat: Just be skinny is enough. If you are overweight, then you will need to pursue a cutting diet or get on Ozempic or something.
Misc: Tattoos are good, any style to make you appear like you are fun to hang around, open to drugs
Game: Medium level is sufficient, just do not be an idiot or scared little *****. Read up on Pook, Roosh V, The Rational Male....Whatever lol.


Easy Mode: If you live in a major city with a lot of areas full of young people then all you need to do is scout out a restaurant or bar that has younger people going & working there and apply to be a bartender, server, cook, dishwasher, bouncer, or host.

Medium Mode: If you do not live near a city core then find a local Chilis or whatever, but make sure women work there. Next, apply to be a bartender, cook, dishwasher, bouncer, host, or server. I lived in Saskatchewan, Canada and even that ****hole had spots where the "younger"/"hip" crowd of the town went to, so do not give me this BS of it is impossible.

Hard Mode: Getting the job will probably be harder than getting laid lol.

Note: You can be a Chef, Bouncer, Dishwasher, or whatever suffices too.

Once you have gotten into a secure position, you will be given so many warm scenarios to approach & talk to hotter younger women.

That's it and thank me later.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I don't know about a dishwasher or chef but having a buddy who is 6'3, 300 pounds and he's slaying hot 5'5, 130-pound chicks SMOKESHOWS. Being a bouncer is the easiest way to pull. We have had conversations and he admitted to me when he does online dating he doesn't pull the same tail he does working security as a bouncer.
 

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If you really want to get laid and have a 100 plus lay count, then follow this post now!

Requirements:

Age: The younger the better, but I can't help you if you are over 50ish. If you are in college or college age, then this is your golden opportunity.
Bodyfat: Just be skinny is enough. If you are overweight, then you will need to pursue a cutting diet or get on Ozempic or something.
Misc: Tattoos are good, any style to make you appear like you are fun to hang around, open to drugs
Game: Medium level is sufficient, just do not be an idiot or scared little *****. Read up on Pook, Roosh V, The Rational Male....Whatever lol.


Easy Mode: If you live in a major city with a lot of areas full of young people then all you need to do is scout out a restaurant or bar that has younger people going & working there and apply to be a bartender, server, cook, dishwasher, bouncer, or host.

Medium Mode: If you do not live near a city core then find a local Chilis or whatever, but make sure women work there. Next, apply to be a bartender, cook, dishwasher, bouncer, host, or server. I lived in Saskatchewan, Canada and even that ****hole had spots where the "younger"/"hip" crowd of the town went to, so do not give me this BS of it is impossible.

Hard Mode: Getting the job will probably be harder than getting laid lol.

Note: You can be a Chef, Bouncer, Dishwasher, or whatever suffices too.

Once you have gotten into a secure position, you will be given so many warm scenarios to approach & talk to hotter younger women.

That's it and thank me later.
I don't see how working back of house would get you laid...

And I worked as a server at a steakhouse. Yes, I had attractive tables that'd flirt occasionally but it's risky for me to propose a date that way. Your best bet is becoming a bartender. Customers will openly hit on yoh, even moreso with alcohol in their system.
 

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I don't know about a dishwasher or chef but having a buddy who is 6'3, 300 pounds and he's slaying hot 5'5, 130-pound chicks SMOKESHOWS. Being a bouncer is the easiest way to pull. We have had conversations and he admitted to me when he does online dating he doesn't pull the same tail he does working security as a bouncer.
I don't see how working back of house would get you laid...

And I worked as a server at a steakhouse. Yes, I had attractive tables that'd flirt occasionally but it's risky for me to propose a date that way. Your best bet is becoming a bartender. Customers will openly hit on yoh, even moreso with alcohol in their system.
There's plenty of back crew members banging the servers, hostesses, and getting invited to parties. If you make yourself approachable and cool to be around, then you should be fine lol. These places tend to have a high turnover, so fvcking your coworkers isn't as taboo as a more stable white-collar setting.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If you really want to get laid and have a 100 plus lay count, then follow this post now!

Requirements:

Age: The younger the better, but I can't help you if you are over 50ish. If you are in college or college age, then this is your golden opportunity.
Bodyfat: Just be skinny is enough. If you are overweight, then you will need to pursue a cutting diet or get on Ozempic or something.
Misc: Tattoos are good, any style to make you appear like you are fun to hang around, open to drugs
Game: Medium level is sufficient, just do not be an idiot or scared little *****. Read up on Pook, Roosh V, The Rational Male....Whatever lol.


Easy Mode: If you live in a major city with a lot of areas full of young people then all you need to do is scout out a restaurant or bar that has younger people going & working there and apply to be a bartender, server, cook, dishwasher, bouncer, or host.

Medium Mode: If you do not live near a city core then find a local Chilis or whatever, but make sure women work there. Next, apply to be a bartender, cook, dishwasher, bouncer, host, or server. I lived in Saskatchewan, Canada and even that ****hole had spots where the "younger"/"hip" crowd of the town went to, so do not give me this BS of it is impossible.

Hard Mode: Getting the job will probably be harder than getting laid lol.

Note: You can be a Chef, Bouncer, Dishwasher, or whatever suffices too.

Once you have gotten into a secure position, you will be given so many warm scenarios to approach & talk to hotter younger women.

That's it and thank me later.
Getting the job, yeah, that will give you some access, but then you are monopolizing your time and pinning yourself into low paying work.

What is a better approach is to find places to hang out where there are going to be your target demographic, for myself this is in the form of finding public docks where women like to walk and parking my yacht there, I can be sitting in the ****pit reading a book as they are walking by and strike up a conversation with her, start a conversation and invite her to have a seat.

Using that initial conversation to build attraction and then making her comfortable, sometimes even sealing the deal within a couple of hours but usually making arrangements to take her out sailing later on.

You can do the same thing with a nice car going to car meets, especially if you are in a college town with a thriving car community that gets together regularly, but when I was younger I accomplished much the same thing simply by meeting a buddy and parking downtown somewhere where we both had our cars, and I'd pop the hatchback on my Camaro and have the stereo turned on and he and I would set down folding chairs and sit there and talk, when a woman would walk by, start the conversation and take it from there, eventually taking her for a ride.

As for getting a 100 lay count in 1 year, your chances of getting there are slim to none, that would require bedding a new woman about once every 3 days.

For 99% of men this is impossible. For myself I am 6'1" ex military and a competitive power lifter with a lean weight about 250 lbs, it took me till I was about 27 to hit 100 given that I was at 2 when I turned 18.

Realistically a man should try for 1 or 2 a month, if you hit 2 a month you are killing it. The majority of men putting in effort can't break 2 a year if any at all.

As well it is good to have something you are doing with your time rather than just trying to ****, a life well lived is far more attractive to women than the idea of getting drug back to a dingy apartment of a pickup artist looking to increase his notch count. This is why if you make getting laid your whole personality you just come off like a creepy dude.
 

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Realistically a man should try for 1 or 2 a month, if you hit 2 a month you are killing it. The majority of men putting in effort can't break 2 a year if any at all.
Fact. There’s this notion that ordinary men can accrue such a sexual roster by “putting work in”. Several times when I’ve mentioned this, some people, one who said it more than once, literally have stated that the minimal effort is cleaning oneself after defecating and not “eating Cheeto’s in mom’s basement”.
 

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Fact. There’s this notion that ordinary men can accrue such a sexual roster by “putting work in”. Several times when I’ve mentioned this, some people, one who said it more than once, literally have stated that the minimal effort is cleaning oneself after defecating and not “eating Cheeto’s in mom’s basement”.
The reason this notion exists is because some grifter out there is selling a course blowing smoke up their asses telling them what they want to hear.

People will absolutely pay good money to have their delusions reinforced by an authority figure, even if that person is a charlatan.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I think this would lead to guys getting tats, getting the chef job, and then basically striking out with all the hot girls he wants lol (unless he happens to be really good looking, in which case, I doubt he'd need to even use this method in the first place)

It reminds of the many thread over on the roosh forum back in the day that were similar to this one, with guys trying to organise their lives in ways they'd be around hot girls, but I can't remember many of them threads where the OP didn't end up frustrated that the hot girls didn't actually want to bang him and were banging other ppl instead
 

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I think this would lead to guys getting tats, getting the chef job, and then basically striking out with all the hot girls he wants lol (unless he happens to be really good looking, in which case, I doubt he'd need to even use this method in the first place)

It reminds of the many thread over on the roosh forum back in the day that were similar to this one, with guys trying to organise their lives in ways they'd be around hot girls, but I can't remember many of them threads where the OP didn't end up frustrated that the hot girls didn't actually want to bang him and were banging other ppl instead
This is because what matters the most is having a solid personality, being able to hold down a conversation in a fun flirty way.

The problem many men face is they are far too robotic when it comes to women, and as Cyndi Lauper said, Girls just want to have fun!

Thus to her the idea of spending time with you and ultimately ****ing you needs to be fun.
 

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The reason this notion exists is because some grifter out there is selling a course blowing smoke up their asses telling them what they want to hear.

People will absolutely pay good money to have their delusions reinforced by an authority figure, even if that person is a charlatan.
Correct. The big delusion is that women’s brains can be hacked with “work”.

I consider myself a middle-status man (low six-figure income, former bodybuilding competition and still lifting, moderately attractive) and I did not “put in (much) work” to attract women or my wife. Rather I put effort into myself. My biggest problem was poor self image as a young guy. Once I took care of that, stuff worked out.
 

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Getting the job, yeah, that will give you some access, but then you are monopolizing your time and pinning yourself into low paying work.
This path is essentially the fvck it & YOLO path that can be done by most men.

What is a better approach is to find places to hang out where there are going to be your target demographic, for myself this is in the form of finding public docks where women like to walk and parking my yacht there, I can be sitting in the ****pit reading a book as they are walking by and strike up a conversation with her, start a conversation and invite her to have a seat.
most young guys do not have a yacht lol.
 

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I think this would lead to guys getting tats, getting the chef job, and then basically striking out with all the hot girls he wants lol (unless he happens to be really good looking, in which case, I doubt he'd need to even use this method in the first place)

It reminds of the many thread over on the roosh forum back in the day that were similar to this one, with guys trying to organise their lives in ways they'd be around hot girls, but I can't remember many of them threads where the OP didn't end up frustrated that the hot girls didn't actually want to bang him and were banging other ppl instead
Unless you are Leonardo Decapario or Bill Belichick, you are going to be putting in effort to meet hot women. This method will put you in front of the most young/hot women to approach. If you are scared of striking out, then stick to social circle game or playing the hope strategy jerking off.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I don't know about a dishwasher or chef but having a buddy who is 6'3, 300 pounds and he's slaying hot 5'5, 130-pound chicks SMOKESHOWS. Being a bouncer is the easiest way to pull. We have had conversations and he admitted to me when he does online dating he doesn't pull the same tail he does working security as a bouncer.
As a DJ I would disagree...they used to get the ones I turned down.
 

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This must be one of the dumbest troll threads I've seen on this forum and OP should be ashamed of himself for creating such nonsense and spam. :rolleyes:
 

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This path is essentially the fvck it & YOLO path that can be done by most men.



most young guys do not have a yacht lol.
It is called an example, it is up to you as a man to figure out what it is you want out of life and to go get it.

On that note, you can buy a yacht for less than 100k
 

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Correct. The big delusion is that women’s brains can be hacked with “work”.

I consider myself a middle-status man (low six-figure income, former bodybuilding competition and still lifting, moderately attractive) and I did not “put in (much) work” to attract women or my wife. Rather I put effort into myself. My biggest problem was poor self image as a young guy. Once I took care of that, stuff worked out.
It is putting that work into yourself that matters.

Just having a solid comfortable lifestyle is a huge bonus, taking care of yourself and knowing how to dress are huge, and then being able to stand up for yourself.

If you can eventually get to the head space where you view yourself as the prize, that is when it gets on easy mode.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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