"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The facial hair question

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I grow excellent facial hair - its super thick and dark and masculine looking. The problem is it makes me look like I'm 34 or 35 (I'm 29) and also makes me look a little more ethnic. With a clean face, i look more white where I look more middle eastern with stubble (I'm Armenian- I look very Greek/Spanish/light skin middle eastern). Other issue is the facial hair only looks good about 4 days in. After that - it gets way too thick and dark. Well at 4 days, its probably gonna be so short where its prickly and painful to women.

If you were me, what would you? I feel like I'm not taking advantage of one of my biggest advantages if I go clean shaven but I also don't want to look older if i want a mid 20s gf.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Advice from the old lady:

Grow stubble about 2-3mm long, trim it & clean shave your neck, groom it meticulously. You'll look masculine, sexy & a bit swarthy. Hard to go wrong that way my friend.

My BF is Spanish/Italian. He looks sexy as hell like this. My ex husband, who is now largely bald, is "black Irish" (Spanish Armada blood) looks hottest with a stubble goatee. Hard to beat a well groomed stubble look. Sexy & manly. Try it & see.
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Grow stubble about 2-3mm long, trim it & clean shave your neck, groom it meticulously. You'll look masculine, sexy & a bit swarthy. Hard to go wrong that way my friend.

My BF is Spanish/Italian. He looks sexy as hell like this. My ex husband, who is now largely bald, is "black Irish" (Spanish Armada blood) looks hottest with a stubble goatee. Hard to beat a well groomed stubble look. Sexy & manly. Try it & see.

What about it making me look older and being prickly/painful to women?

I can only do like 3-5 days growth, afterwards it's just way too dark/thick
 

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Beard trimmer. No. 2 or No. 3 blade. Try it & see. Trust me on this.

Will await field report. Now go & do.
 

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Beard trimmer. No. 2 or No. 3 blade. Try it & see. Trust me on this.

Will await field report. Now go & do.
I can't do a 2 or a 3. It comes in ridiculously thick/dark

It looks good at a 1 meaning around 3-5 days growth at the most
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Worry about it being prickly to women once you actually get one.

Get a beard trimmer, whichever length suits you. I go no.2 and shave the neck area. I also get my barber to do it all every 2 weeks so I only have to maintain until it's his turn.
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Grow stubble about 2-3mm long, trim it & clean shave your neck, groom it meticulously. You'll look masculine, sexy & a bit swarthy. Hard to go wrong that way my friend.

My BF is Spanish/Italian. He looks sexy as hell like this. My ex husband, who is now largely bald, is "black Irish" (Spanish Armada blood) looks hottest with a stubble goatee. Hard to beat a well groomed stubble look. Sexy & manly. Try it & see.
I’m working on getting something exactly like this lol
 

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Here’s a cool video I saw on this that y’all might be interested in:

 
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