"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The facial hair question

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I grow excellent facial hair - its super thick and dark and masculine looking. The problem is it makes me look like I'm 34 or 35 (I'm 29) and also makes me look a little more ethnic. With a clean face, i look more white where I look more middle eastern with stubble (I'm Armenian- I look very Greek/Spanish/light skin middle eastern). Other issue is the facial hair only looks good about 4 days in. After that - it gets way too thick and dark. Well at 4 days, its probably gonna be so short where its prickly and painful to women.

If you were me, what would you? I feel like I'm not taking advantage of one of my biggest advantages if I go clean shaven but I also don't want to look older if i want a mid 20s gf.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Advice from the old lady:

Grow stubble about 2-3mm long, trim it & clean shave your neck, groom it meticulously. You'll look masculine, sexy & a bit swarthy. Hard to go wrong that way my friend.

My BF is Spanish/Italian. He looks sexy as hell like this. My ex husband, who is now largely bald, is "black Irish" (Spanish Armada blood) looks hottest with a stubble goatee. Hard to beat a well groomed stubble look. Sexy & manly. Try it & see.
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Grow stubble about 2-3mm long, trim it & clean shave your neck, groom it meticulously. You'll look masculine, sexy & a bit swarthy. Hard to go wrong that way my friend.

My BF is Spanish/Italian. He looks sexy as hell like this. My ex husband, who is now largely bald, is "black Irish" (Spanish Armada blood) looks hottest with a stubble goatee. Hard to beat a well groomed stubble look. Sexy & manly. Try it & see.

What about it making me look older and being prickly/painful to women?

I can only do like 3-5 days growth, afterwards it's just way too dark/thick
 

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Beard trimmer. No. 2 or No. 3 blade. Try it & see. Trust me on this.

Will await field report. Now go & do.
 

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Beard trimmer. No. 2 or No. 3 blade. Try it & see. Trust me on this.

Will await field report. Now go & do.
I can't do a 2 or a 3. It comes in ridiculously thick/dark

It looks good at a 1 meaning around 3-5 days growth at the most
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Worry about it being prickly to women once you actually get one.

Get a beard trimmer, whichever length suits you. I go no.2 and shave the neck area. I also get my barber to do it all every 2 weeks so I only have to maintain until it's his turn.
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Grow stubble about 2-3mm long, trim it & clean shave your neck, groom it meticulously. You'll look masculine, sexy & a bit swarthy. Hard to go wrong that way my friend.

My BF is Spanish/Italian. He looks sexy as hell like this. My ex husband, who is now largely bald, is "black Irish" (Spanish Armada blood) looks hottest with a stubble goatee. Hard to beat a well groomed stubble look. Sexy & manly. Try it & see.
I’m working on getting something exactly like this lol
 

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Here’s a cool video I saw on this that y’all might be interested in:

 
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