She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I dont care about reps or negs or any of that, but its the principle of the thing, if your really 42 then act it. Im not even gonna bother to neg you back, just not worth my time.Espi said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Well yeah, I value my anonymity. It's a small world, you never know if/when someone's going to recognize you. And once your pic starts floating around the 'net, it stays there forever.Crissco said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Agreed. Plus, looks only get you in the door, as has been discussed to death already. It goes beyond that - especially for "hot" girls. They can get "hot" guys any time. Yeah, they'll be infatuated or whatever, but they'll disregard you real fast if you aren't on your best game (or have none at all). You can't just stand there and look pretty, or act like a nice guy dumbass.Espi said:
Crissco said:I dont care about reps or negs or any of that, but its the principle of the thing, if your really 42 then act it. Im not even gonna bother to neg you back, just not worth my time.
As for the picture, really dont care what other people think or know what I look like, but dont worry bro, im sure im not your type
That's the right attitude. Neg repping is extremely lame in my opinion.Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
pinkfl said:
Nice pic. You're kind of a cutie.pinkfl said:
pinkfl said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Natty. No cycles. Not that I have anything against steroids, I just have no need to get that big.Hydrak said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.