Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I dont care about reps or negs or any of that, but its the principle of the thing, if your really 42 then act it. Im not even gonna bother to neg you back, just not worth my time.Espi said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Well yeah, I value my anonymity. It's a small world, you never know if/when someone's going to recognize you. And once your pic starts floating around the 'net, it stays there forever.Crissco said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Agreed. Plus, looks only get you in the door, as has been discussed to death already. It goes beyond that - especially for "hot" girls. They can get "hot" guys any time. Yeah, they'll be infatuated or whatever, but they'll disregard you real fast if you aren't on your best game (or have none at all). You can't just stand there and look pretty, or act like a nice guy dumbass.Espi said:
Crissco said:I dont care about reps or negs or any of that, but its the principle of the thing, if your really 42 then act it. Im not even gonna bother to neg you back, just not worth my time.
As for the picture, really dont care what other people think or know what I look like, but dont worry bro, im sure im not your type
That's the right attitude. Neg repping is extremely lame in my opinion.She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
pinkfl said:
Nice pic. You're kind of a cutie.pinkfl said:
pinkfl said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Natty. No cycles. Not that I have anything against steroids, I just have no need to get that big.Hydrak said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.