Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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So my ex broke things off with me about 2 weeks ago. We'd been seeing each other for 2 years off and on. Her reasoning was "she couldn't put what happened behind her". Aka, she couldn't stand the fact that I ****ed 2 of her friends and she would never get over that. She told me she was just mad at me whenever she was around me because of it.

So I told her thats fine. She said "you aren't mad?" And I said "Nah, I knew this was coming." And that was that.

Since, I've been getting text messages every other night like I miss you, blah, etc, etc.

Taking the advice on this board I kept no contact, because I assumed the breakup was so she could F more guys.

Well I was on my computer yesterday and I noticed that she saved her Facebook password on here. So of course I go snooping around and I find messages from like 3 days ago. Basically she's talking to her best friend saying "I really want him back, I miss him so much." and "I just want him in my life I have feelings for no one else but I just get so mad when I'm around him because of what he did to me." and "I've been trying to see other guys, but no one does it like him." , ETC.

So what the hell do I do? I love the girl, but she's also pulled breaks out of her ass many a time too. I can tell she genuinely loves me, but how do I know she won't get confused again and just take a break..
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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blackhatter said:
So what the hell do I do? I love the girl, but she's also pulled breaks out of her ass many a time too. I can tell she genuinely loves me, but how do I know she won't get confused again and just take a break..
Let's start with this...

What do you want?
 

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Love Ninja said:
Let's start with this...

What do you want?
I want to live my life to the fullest and have women as an after thought. I like her company, but I will never let myself get attached again.
 

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blackhatter said:
I want to live my life to the fullest and have women as an after thought. I like her company, but I will never let myself get attached again.
Alrighty! That is awesome and VERY clear!

So... let her do what she does. That's her thing... and be who you are.
Unless you're dishonest with her, I fail to understand what the friction is here.

If she attempts to "win you back" so be it. You might "cave in" but it doesn't seem likely.

In the future you might consider not sleeping with the friends of your girlfriend or reading their private e-mails. I'm not making a moral judgment here, but it's more about you and who you are.

Are those the actions that define man you want to be?

Food for thought.
 

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No matter how much she misses you, loves you, etc, etc, she still has resentment for what you did and would be there for really long time. Not to mention she probably will not trust you one bit.

You broke the relationship, it can't be fixed. Learn from this, impove yourself and move on. No sense of trying to put the pieces back together. Its like breaking a very expensive vase. You can try to glue it back together but, it won't look as nice, it won't be as structurally sound and its resale value is nil.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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