"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The EX, part 54

stevey_2000

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ok, as much advice as i have given out, i need some myself here...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=62859

the above thread is the last post on this subject i made...now i'm well on my way to becoming a fully fledged DJ again except the ex keeps rearing her ugly head,

the mortgage isn't yet sorted out because i feel that she is taking her time on the subject in signing documents, recently i've been getting messages telling me i am free to go up and have drinks with her at the flat anytime i want,

now my ex-boss says she saw her before christmas and got introduced as her nephews new girlfriend and when i questioned her about this (i told her we can see other people now, we're apart) she kept telling me she wasn't seeing anyone even though it is obvious she is, not that i care but i feel like she is trapping me and taking her time on signing the mortgage over because she doesn't know what to do,

what do you all feel about this and what is the ideal course of action for me to take, it's not the average thing a person comes up against
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i feel like she is trapping me and taking her time on signing the mortgage over because she doesn't know what to do,
You might want to talk to the lawyer you went through about this subject.

As for her seeing your ex-bosses nephew, who the fvck cares?
 

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well as i have said mate, i told her we're now apart and we can see other people, but it made her more determined to prove that she isn't seeing anyone, the fact that she is stalling on the mortgage makes me more pissed off
 

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Your lawyer may be able to speed up the process of her signing over the mortgage. Her opinions, lies, who she dates, etc shouldn't affect a legal transaction. You're the one in power since she's signing over the mortgage to you.
 

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actually mate, i'm signing it over to her, she's gotta sign the documents tho!,

i'm going to gran canaria to live and work in april and need the flat off my name by then, not going away with a £100k apartment over my head, it's actually when she found about me going abroad when she started stalling!!

now you see why i don't give a f*** who she's sh@gging, it's her that wants me think she's enjoying herself on her own!

anyway, thanks for the advice mate

ste.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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actually mate, i'm signing it over to her, she's gotta sign the documents tho!
You might be in a 5hitty position if she's the one ending up with the mortgage. She's the one in power, and she'll most likely be able to take all the time she needs. Still, talk to the lawyer about this and let them know your situation.
 

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yup, cheers for the advice!,

think this belongs in a business advice website and not birds advice website eh? ;)
 
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