"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Essence of a Don Juan?

DJDamage

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Different people on this forum seem to have different defintions of what is a don juan. what is it exectly?

From my understanding Don Juan is a guy who is both a great seducer of woman and has his sh1t together with the rest of his life. Essentialy he strives to be the best in everything he does. He always looks for new chalanges and responsiblites to better himself.

Is this a wrong definition?

Now its no secret that woman like romance and are very emotional about it. Therefore I assume that if you do certain things other then just being confident, you can increase the attraction level in a woman.

However when I ask questions like this some people on hear (you know who you are) keep on saying " who cares what you look like, dress like, or what type of job you have, hey I am living in a basement/trailer working a blue collar job, I don't even work out and with my confidence I am still able to pull pvssy left and right. Romance?? hell no, I don't take her to no nice places, I don't seduce her with wine or candles sh!t if I go shopping she will come with me, then over to my place where she will drink beer and have pizza and then we will fvck later."

Now is above statment a modern version of a don juan? I thought a don juan should be more compromise of Pooks' analogy of believing you are the prince or disciple thread on becoming a king. I like Senior Fingers "Weapons of Mass Destruction" because he seems to be capturing the essence of don juan that its not only about the conquest of "wham bam thankyou Ma'am" but more of the image of a don juan.

Shouldn't we also represent the iconic image of a don juan other then just trying to get the chick into bed? Believing you are don juan and acting like a don juan are too different things.

Can you honestly point your finger to a guy who looks, dress, lives and acts like a tottal slob/trashy and call him a don juan even though he can bang HB's on a regualr basis!??
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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squirrels

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There's no iconic image...everyone is different.

If we were all "Don Juans" in the same exact, identical manner, it would be difficult to be a "Don Juan" at all.

Too many people lose sight of this. There IS no paradigm. It's all about discovering what your OWN personal, unique virtues are and how to market them to the ladies.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I've never really liked the term "seducer" when applied to DJism. I understand that to seduce someone one needs to convince them of something without their knowing. That seems a bit underhanded to me.

I feel that a DJ naturally attracts people without needing to convince them. DJs have the qualities and characteristics that are magnetic. People tend to be friendly with and do favors for DJs without being asked, they just want to make the DJ feel as good as THEY feel when they are around him.

Seduction, no matter how sexy it may be, is still a process. The someone puts forth an effort and eventually there is a payback. I see a DJ using his charisma attracting people and getting immediate feedback just because he is present.
 
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