Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
And having to struggle is a good thing?bigjohnson said:Why not struggle? Life has never been easy, STFU and lean your shoulder into it.
This country's lost its mind, like I said.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
And having to struggle is a good thing?bigjohnson said:Why not struggle? Life has never been easy, STFU and lean your shoulder into it.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Bonhomme said:This country's lost its mind, like I said.
I'd say our point of disagreement is not so much what the minimum standard is, SmoothTalker, but whether or not it is provided.SmoothTalker said:No, we shouldn't let people starve or freeze to death, but beyond that, yes, some struggling is necessary.
Not to mention it's been proven that people have a lot less appreciation for something they didn't earn.
I think we both agree that there is a minumum standard that everyone should be provided with. We just don't agree on what that is.
I think everyone deserves food and a roof, and BASIC health care if they need it. Beyond that, it's whatever they get for themselves.
So, provide the BASICS of life, yes. Want more? Struggle for it.
I'm for providing bare minimum sustenance in return for public works. Unless a person is actually completely unable to work I'm OK with requiring either training or labor in exchange for the handouts they get. If they can't be bothered to at least put forth that level of effort then they're not hungry enough.SmoothTalker said:No, we shouldn't let people starve or freeze to death, but beyond that, yes, some struggling is necessary. There will always be scarcity, and by just giving out handouts, you're taking resources away from somewhere else.
Not to mention it's been proven that people have a lot less appreciation for something they didn't earn.
I think we both agree that there is a minumum standard that everyone should be provided with. We just don't agree on what that is.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Have you ever worked someplace and the management and suckups really put the pressure on workers to not unionize and so it doesn't? It's happened everytime I experienced a union trying to come in. And from my experience the crappier the job the less likely the workers are willingly to stand up for themselves. Let me tell you from experience, the japanese tend to "own" and controller their workers.SmoothTalker said:By the way, the local paper had a story recently about yet another attempt to unionize the Toyota factory here. I haven't heard the results yet, but the general opinion was that the bid was going to be voted down. The story also mentioned that over the last 15 years there have been multiple attempts to unionize the plant, all of which have been rejected by the workers.
Now, since union working conditions are so great and Toyota is exploitive, practically sweatshop, minimum wage work, why the hell would workers reject attempts by various unions to unionize them time and time again?
I'd love to hear an explanation.