Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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The Dreaded "Urkel Game" (Going "Urkel")

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Steve Urkel, from Family Matters, was a total dweeb who pursued Larua forever. Yet he was a great PUA. Why?

Simple: HE WAS IMPERVIOUS TO REJECTION. Women can't stand this, because their normal weapon doesn't work.

Going Urkel means not caring if she wants you or not, or if she rejects you or not, but declaring undying love for her, regardless of the outcome, with no level of shame or rejection deterring you.

The "Urkel Effect" is when she realizes how much you love her, becomes aware of how much other guys SHOULD love her, which causes her to test the other guys perpetually, and, of course, they always fail, since they don't relaly love her the way "Urkel" does.

With Urkel game, you have no shame, can put her on a pedestal (big ego boost, and she'll seek you out when she needs one), plus after a while, she might just decide to finally give you a chance. It's best if you run this game without letting your emotions get the best of you, since you're likely to be rejected and to make a fool out of yourself.

The other benefit is that OTHER chicfks will wish you loved them the way you love "her," and will generally get sick of hearing about how superior "she" is (built-in neg). Indeed, on Family Matters, Urkel attracted Laura's cousin, who thought he was just PERFECT.

The only problem is that Urkel had writers who got Lauara for him, but the game is FUN as hell to run. It's my current tactic with General Hospital star Lexi Ainsworth, to the point where I bought a domain declaring my undying love for her (which is sorta genuine; she's like a celebrity crush).
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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TheMale

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i don't get how you're not seeing like a nice guy or worse a needy ????
 

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But that was a TV show. In real life two scenarios play out. If she likes you as a person and sees you as harmless, then Urkel is in the friendzone and is never ever getting out of it. If you're not perceived by her as a harmless friend and/or she doesn't like your personality, persistence is "scary" and "stalking".

Either way it is a position that no man should ever be in. You are either her perpetual orbiter inflating her ego, or you are her "stalker" that she gets to brag about and get sympathy and attention playing the victim. Generally if women aren't attracted to a man, they have an almost hatred for him unless you are in the friendzone. But rarely is a female a real friend and you are still being used and abused in the friendzone.

Best thing you can do is ignore and avoid your oneitis and let her see you showing attention to other females.
 

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Uh...
I disagree with this method completely, i'd never put myself in a situation where i'm treating a girl like a goddess in hopes that she might give me the time of day, i don't have time for that kind of stuff and plus it's counter-productive.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is a surefire way NOT to get the girl. The only way she'll give a guy like this a "chance" is if he hangs around long after her sexual marketability drops. Then, she'll lament how "wrong" she was to sleep with all those alphas that actually knew how to turn her on.
 

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BettorOffSingle said:
Steve Urkel, from Family Matters, was a total dweeb who pursued Larua forever. Yet he was a great PUA. Why?

Simple: HE WAS IMPERVIOUS TO REJECTION. Women can't stand this, because their normal weapon doesn't work.

Going Urkel means not caring if she wants you or not, or if she rejects you or not, but declaring undying love for her, regardless of the outcome, with no level of shame or rejection deterring you.

The "Urkel Effect" is when she realizes how much you love her, becomes aware of how much other guys SHOULD love her, which causes her to test the other guys perpetually, and, of course, they always fail, since they don't relaly love her the way "Urkel" does.

With Urkel game, you have no shame, can put her on a pedestal (big ego boost, and she'll seek you out when she needs one), plus after a while, she might just decide to finally give you a chance. It's best if you run this game without letting your emotions get the best of you, since you're likely to be rejected and to make a fool out of yourself.

The other benefit is that OTHER chicfks will wish you loved them the way you love "her," and will generally get sick of hearing about how superior "she" is (built-in neg). Indeed, on Family Matters, Urkel attracted Laura's cousin, who thought he was just PERFECT.

The only problem is that Urkel had writers who got Lauara for him, but the game is FUN as hell to run. It's my current tactic with General Hospital star Lexi Ainsworth, to the point where I bought a domain declaring my undying love for her (which is sorta genuine; she's like a celebrity crush).
This strategy is totally flawed for a bunch of reasons.

Mainly, anytime you declare your undying love for a girl that you aren't even dating you are lying. It shows you are weak, cowardly, low value and roll over like a dog. Thats a bad start and an instant entry to FZ status.
 

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Stagger Lee said:
But that was a TV show. In real life two scenarios play out. If she likes you as a person and sees you as harmless, then Urkel is in the friendzone and is never ever getting out of it. If you're not perceived by her as a harmless friend and/or she doesn't like your personality, persistence is "scary" and "stalking".

Either way it is a position that no man should ever be in. You are either her perpetual orbiter inflating her ego, or you are her "stalker" that she gets to brag about and get sympathy and attention playing the victim. Generally if women aren't attracted to a man, they have an almost hatred for him unless you are in the friendzone. But rarely is a female a real friend and you are still being used and abused in the friendzone.

Best thing you can do is ignore and avoid your oneitis and let her see you showing attention to other females.
it's practically always like this and you end up being the creep without doing anything creepy. Great peice of advice. Let's sticky this somewhere for everyone.
 

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Stagger Lee said:
But that was a TV show. In real life two scenarios play out. If she likes you as a person and sees you as harmless, then Urkel is in the friendzone and is never ever getting out of it. If you're not perceived by her as a harmless friend and/or she doesn't like your personality, persistence is "scary" and "stalking".

Either way it is a position that no man should ever be in. You are either her perpetual orbiter inflating her ego, or you are her "stalker" that she gets to brag about and get sympathy and attention playing the victim. Generally if women aren't attracted to a man, they have an almost hatred for him unless you are in the friendzone. But rarely is a female a real friend and you are still being used and abused in the friendzone.

Best thing you can do is ignore and avoid your oneitis and let her see you showing attention to other females.
exactly.
 
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