Although gyms are seeming to be interesting places to hook up with women these days, there seems to be a glaring down side as well. If you meet a woman at your gym and end up with a bitter split such as in my experience with the 35 year old woman I wrote about in my previous posts, it's gonna be hard for both of you to tolerate seeing each other several days a week. It even becomes worse if you talked to many women at the same gym and perhaps had some less than encouraging results. More often than not, one of you might have to find a different gym to go to. Such is the case with the 35 year old woman I talked about earlier. I could care less what she chooses to do, but I've noticed that she's stopped coming to our gym ever since our bitter rupture. The good thing with my gym is that it's got so many different locations both in the city of Philadelphia, the state of Pennsylvania and across the U.S., so she could go to any other location she feels like. I on the other hand, without a car, am restricted to the location most convenient to get to.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The Down Side to Meeting Women in Gyms
- Thread starter Frank2500
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Same reason why I don't date people from work. Some days I wish I could though ... we got some hotties 
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Don't crap where you eat.
But also remember you are in complete control of your actions.
Set the proper frame of your "post-dating" relationship and things can be cool.
Things are only awkward (or whatever adjective you choose) if you allow them. Her frame should never be stronger than yours.
The only time you should HAVE to avoid an "ex-aquantince" is if she is truly phsyco.
But also remember you are in complete control of your actions.
Set the proper frame of your "post-dating" relationship and things can be cool.
Things are only awkward (or whatever adjective you choose) if you allow them. Her frame should never be stronger than yours.
The only time you should HAVE to avoid an "ex-aquantince" is if she is truly phsyco.