"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The Door of Life

Vincent

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We all start life in a dark room. In this room there is a door. We search around to find the door, and when we do we are faced with a hard and pressing question. Do we dare venture onwards, facing the blinding light that pours in every time we crack the door? Or do we leave the door closed, sit in the comfort of the dark and just try to find our way without ever trying anything?

Some people open the door; they go slow, cover their eyes and give themselves time to adjust to the blinding light. They see things clearer and they can understand what they have the courage and confidence to try things and live life.

Other people sit in the dark and allow themselves to walk blindly through life; they never see the whole picture and always lack the confidence and courage to try new things. They have some success, but they never learn the things they need.

There is another option. Some people don’t understand it but it’s out there. Some people get fed up sitting in the dark but they don’t know what to do to change it. They call out in the darkness. They call out for someone to help them, someone who’s been through the door, seen the outside, and experienced the pain of walking through. This person, or the guide, is faceless, nameless, and most of all won’t mock us for failure, but instead criticize us for not trying. This person will guide them through the door, tell them to cover there eyes, go slow, and just give it time. Once they get out the door they see the big picture. The guide can no longer help them anymore and the person must venture onward. They see the big picture and must face the pains of building courage and confidence.

This is the door of life. Whether we face it or avoid it the door is real, and the door is something that we come into question with again and again. After we open the door we must decide what to do. Do we stay around to show off the knowledge we’ve gained and criticize others? Or do we stay, give advice, learn to respect others, and wait as more people call out for help? These are the questions we must ask ourselves and decide if you are comfortable with the answer.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Layla

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exactly, this sites shows us the door but were the onres that have to walk through it.

Like the matrix when morpheus tells neo
 

Vincent

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Originally posted by Layla
exactly, this sites shows us the door but were the onres that have to walk through it.

Like the matrix when morpheus tells neo
You're missing the point.
 

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lol funny analogy.





lol i like when ppl say "Vincent" in a british accent. It gets me every time.....prolly cause of the black guy on snath that yells "V--------------I--------N------------C---------E---------NT"



good movie
 

Vincent

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Sigh, no one understands what I wrote :(
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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