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the dilemma all men in a relationship face

crackhead

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you have a girlfriend, but damn if you don't want to hook up with other women

i've been with a girl for several months now, and it's cool.. we get along well for the most part, she puts up with a lot, doesn't give me sh1t about various things like some girls would, sex is good, etc. however i know this will not be the girl i marry

but damn man i seriously want more more more

it's a tricky situation though. because i don't want to end the relationship just for the sake of wanting to hook up with more women. then i might not get laid for a month and i would totally want to call my old girlfriend. thats no good. but then on the other hand, i will feel bad asking other girls for their #'s and pursuing them if i'm still with my girlfriend (it's not like i'd be down with her giving her # out to other dudes)

sigh, what to do what to do

there's too many beautiful women on this planet because you can't have em all

but i want to hook up with some veluptuous, naughty, freaky hot ass women man! especially before i settle down (im 28, dont plan on wanting to settle down for atleast 7-8 yrs)

1 girlfriend is cool, way way way better than 0, but I WANT 25!!

how do you sex other girls and not lose your girlfriend?
 

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If you are in an LTR with her and she believes it's exclusive, you can only do one thing:

lie.


Yes, cheat and don't get caught. BUT:

1. You will be a liar, even if you don't get caught. Liars aren't respected and this trait will manifest itself in you until it's obvious to other people that you're untrustworthy.

2. You will ruin a completely good relationship, from what I'm hearing.

3. She may want to get revenge when she finds out that you cheated( they all find out). Hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn.

and countless other reasons.

I'm also in an LTR. I'm 22, with a great girl. Since I think marriage is stupid, I'm not concerned about her "being the one" or anything like that. But I'm also in the position to basically lay anyone I want. It's tempting to be at a bar, get approached by a ton of ladies and get their contact info.....and want to call them, or go to their place and screw their brains out, but can't because my priorities lie elsewhere. I know exactly how you feel, man.

Best advice though is to be true to your girl. If you don't want to be in this relationship anymore, tell her. Break up with her. Make it short and sweet.

Good luck.
 

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I would only sex other girls if I didn't care whether or not I lost my gf.

If I didn't care whether or not I lost my gf, WHY THE HELL would I be going out with her?

See how this works? When the temptation of pvssy gets too strong and I figure, it's worth it if I lose her over this, then it's time to break up w/her.

Fair-warning. Most of us think, "Damn this LTR! If I didn't have a LTR I'd be hot-tubbing with those three Jaeger Girls I saw at the bar last weekend!"

Most of us do not go straight from LTR to hot-tubbing with Jaeger Girls. Most of us go from LTR's to eating Ben & Jerry's nude and masturbating like howler monkeys at Internet porn. This is likely going to be you, at least for awhile.

Meet other girls while you still have your g/f, work on your game -- don't be too sleazy about it -- and then when you think you have some strong leads, break up with your g/f (IF that's what you're sure you want -- she will NOT come back to you), and then call your "network" a couple of weeks later and put word out that you're single.

NEVER LEAVE ANYONE FOR ANYONE ELSE. Trust me on this.
 

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yup. lying sucks. i hate doing it. i definitely don't want to go that route.

i guess all i can do is wait till the time is right.. it's kind of weird to look at a relationship like that though. but i KNOW i NEED to SEX MANY other women before i am ready to get married

i think if i got approached though by a 8 or 9 or maybe even 7 who wanted my piece, i don't think i could resist the temptation like you.

i would do it, and then subsequently break up with my girlfriend.
 

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well my last post was to Luveno.

you make some good points St_Joey, word. i can see how leaving someone for someone else is mad sticky.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Why make unecessary drama by being in a relationship if you aren't committed to the woman? That doesn't make sense, it's like buying a can of beer when you really want a six pack. :confused:
 

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i feel you, but even the most commited monogomous domesticated married men lust over other women

i like my girlfriend

i just also crave hooking up with hmm hundreds, thousands of other women

it's nature
 

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Keep the woman and get some poon on the side.

So what if you have to lie. The best way to conceal is to make yourself very busy before you get another girl. It's easier if you don't live with the girlfriend.

How AFC to tell you how bad lying is. We tell lies every day: nice shirt; you don't look fat; you're cooking is delicious; I'm going out with the boys; I'm working late; I'm networking....

If she gives you crap about having women call you, or you calling women - they're just friends, the jealousy is bs and must end.

Also, remember this: most hb's always have boyfriends. Even when they are done with a guy, they won't get rid of him until they meet someone else.

In your case, pursue other women. Once you've hooked up, you might decide you would rather spend time with your NEW girlfriend.
 

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word up snatchmasta.. aint like i'm married and sh1t

thats kinda an underlying feeling i have about cheating with a gf, its not like youre married!

when you are married, its way shadier
 

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Most evidence from evolutionary biology suggest we've always been a naturally polygamous species. Your "morality" is entirely contigent on social and cultural context.

Ultimately actions dont have intrinsic properties, rather we each assign those properties. Your moral standpoint is subjective.
 

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Originally posted by AMF
Most evidence from evolutionary biology suggest we've always been a naturally polygamous species. Your "morality" is entirely contigent on social and cultural context.
That must justify me murdering somebody to get a job, since cavemen used to kill each other for food and luxury...

I see nothing wrong with an "open relationship", but lying about it is another thing.
 

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Originally posted by diplomatic_lie
That must justify me murdering somebody to get a job, since cavemen used to kill each other for food and luxury...

I see nothing wrong with an "open relationship", but lying about it is another thing.
Yeah, I've always thought that one of the traits of a DJ is fearlessness in that he was straight forward with his convictions. Why are guys afraid to just say that they don't want a commitment? And how much effort is used to keep up with the subterfuge, isn't that a bunch of wasted energy? I don't get it.
 

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Originally posted by crackhead
i think if i got approached though by a 8 or 9 or maybe even 7 who wanted my piece, i don't think i could resist the temptation like you.

i would do it, and then subsequently break up with my girlfriend.
That's the way to do it...if you reach a point where your girl doesn't give you what you want/need, and you have an opportunity to get it elsewhere, then GET it...but don't put her through that sh!t if she's completely fulfilled with you but you aren't by her. Break it off with her immediately afterward.
 

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Temptation or whatever else would lead you to a conclusion of cheating is bull.

It's a question of principle.
 

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I just hope the guys here who think lying is ok.


Are not ever in a position of power in this country.

also if you want some sex..then why not leave your girl.

you cant..or you would. So at this point..your either Dependent on her to a point you cant leave, you actually love her, or you cant be alone?

I prefere not to get lied to. So I dont lie.

and Im guessing you dont want to be lied to either. so dont lie.

and honestly dont come here and say you dont care if you get lied to... no one wants to get lied to.
 

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Originally posted by crackhead
you have a girlfriend, but damn if you don't want to hook up with other women

i've been with a girl for several months now, and it's cool.. we get along well for the most part, she puts up with a lot, doesn't give me sh1t about various things like some girls would, sex is good, etc. however i know this will not be the girl i marry

but damn man i seriously want more more more

it's a tricky situation though. because i don't want to end the relationship just for the sake of wanting to hook up with more women. then i might not get laid for a month and i would totally want to call my old girlfriend. thats no good. but then on the other hand, i will feel bad asking other girls for their #'s and pursuing them if i'm still with my girlfriend (it's not like i'd be down with her giving her # out to other dudes)

sigh, what to do what to do

there's too many beautiful women on this planet because you can't have em all

but i want to hook up with some veluptuous, naughty, freaky hot ass women man! especially before i settle down (im 28, dont plan on wanting to settle down for atleast 7-8 yrs)

1 girlfriend is cool, way way way better than 0, but I WANT 25!!

how do you sex other girls and not lose your girlfriend?
First off I'd like to say that I understand your predicament completely.

However the advice to this point has been crap. Don't lie to your girl. Cuz in reality you are lying to yourself and letting yourself down. Trust me man you can justify it all you want in a million freaking ways. In the end you are a freaking liar and people find out about it and lose respect. Which leads you to lose respect for yourself.

Be a freaking man and go for what you want. You want a lot of poon then go get it. If you want to be a player then be one. I can't see how maintaining your current relationship will help you get what you want.

All I can think of is that you are too pvssy to let go for fears of being alone.

This dilemma you speak about never goes away. Not when you're married. No matter how hot your woman is. NEVER!!



Once you've had enough you start to realize that pvssy is just pvssy. THATS IT. Its all pretty much the same and there are a million things in life more important than sticking your d!ck into a different hole everyday.

Not that you don't want to :).

You just learn not let the power of pvssy control your freaking life all the time.

Which ironically brings you more pvssy. :rolleyes:

Good luck. Don't lie to your girl man. Learn to respect everyone, including yourself.
 

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Re: Re: the dilemma all men in a relationship face

Originally posted by Slickster


All I can think of is that you are too pvssy to let go for fears of being alone.
Damnit Slickster stole my thunder:D

He beat me to the punch that wasn't stated in the previous replies. Its the best advice on here...the guy's scared of being alone.

Yea..WHAT IF I WAS WITH THIS GIRL...WHAT IF I BAGGED THAT GIRL..WHAT IF I LEFT MY GF TO FIND THE LAND OF POON?

The biggest question that keeps you with your girlfriend is - WHAT IF THESE WOMEN AREN'T THE WOMEN MY CURRENT GF IS..and WHAT IF IN THE END OF ALL THE PLAYING AROUND..I'M ALONE?

If you are secure with your life and yourself and you genuinely feel the current GF isn't meeting your needs..then the fear of being alone and losing her shouldn't even cross your mind.

But I'd put money that it does!
 

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word slickster

"All I can think of is that you are too pvssy to let go for fears of being alone."

this is somewhat true. i'm just not ready to break it off yet. the time will come i guess. the grass is always greener though yaknow.. i could break up with her and subsequently learn the hardway that i had a pretty good situation going on and regret ending it when i did. i don't want to do that. i guess the time will come when i'm ready. it is really my first longterm girlfriend so in some sense it's good experience and i'm learning things that will help me in future situations and learning about myself as well. this is not the only reason i'm in the relationship. i do like her, she's cute, my friends dig her, she's definitely not clingy, and damn i bent her over last night on her kitchen table and rammed her from the back so nice. i think i'm gonna mature into player mode in my early 30's and sex some super hot mid-late 20's girls. i'm diggin the girlfriend thing for now for the most part, and like you said, no matter how hot your woman is, the situation will never go away.
 

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this isnt some situation.

I completely understand where you are coming from..and I completely repsect you for who you are and what you want to do.

but come on.

most guys your age..late 20's early 30's..dont give a **** about nailing poon.

thats what they did 10 yrs prior.

I know your one Hornty bastard but there are many things out there better than sex.

things that cant be replaced so easy. Like someone LOVING YOU!

and if dont love this girl..id say let go...and move on.
 
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