Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'm not saying dont' do it. I was just using an example of why I didn't want to in one instance. It has it's advantages, but I'm a little old fashioned as far as the phone goes, and I hate talking on the phone long and I especially hate replying to all those damned text messages, but that's just me.Conquer said:First of all thanks for your response. You brought attention to the potential elephant in the room. Do women sometimes use texting just so they can talk to a lot of guys at once? if so why compete for a women? Why let her call the shots like that? Once or twice ive felt like what you just said fertileturtle. However this does not discredit or mean i disagree with what the previous posts said. It all depends on the girl.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You always should be trying to find that right angle that puts you apart. So key to beating the competition.FirefighterMD said:For one, it pulls you away from the pack. What better way to stand out by...