"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The debate in my head continues- A silent Next, or a "loud" one?

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So the dilemma is as follows:

I'm still not sure how I should next girls. Yes, I know I shouldn't give a crap, but still...

Its either the silent next. You know, just never talk to her again (well, maybe in a few months, just to hit her again). But there is the whole "you're a f*cking slvt " speach that I just love giving them, explaining why I don't want to see them anymore.

These 2 voices in my head...one is saying "be a man, just don't talk to her, cut the drama, who cares about that b*tch". But then there's this other voice, "tell her how much she sucks and why you are not gonna talk to her anymore, so she'll know where she went wrong and what she did to you", the "Revenge" feeling.

Some insight please...what's the best thing to do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I didnt realize you had to insult people to next a girl or feed your ego.
 
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The_Wolf said:
... But then there's this other voice, "tell her how much she sucks and why you are not gonna talk to her anymore, so she'll know where she went wrong and what she did to you"
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You know that girls are never wrong, right?
 
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No, that's not what I meant, sorry.
I didn't mean to do it to feed my ego, honestly, I didn't even think about it when I wrote this thread.

Fresh example from now:

This girl I know through a friend (female)..we have been texting and talking for 2 months now I think, and everytime I come to her town to chill with my friends (I don't live by there...) she can't go out or has something else to do. So I "told her off" once already, saying that I'm done with this sh*t, because she never actually wants to meet, only talks about it but never executes it. But then she sends me these long-ass messages on MSN saying how she really does wanna chill with me and that all the times she blew me off wasn't her fault.

Fine, good excuse I tell her. but a few weeks later, she still does the same ****. Last weekend I came to her town to see my friends, and I called her up when we went out. I asked her what she was doing and everything, and she says she's with her friends somewhere (we we're kind of suppose to see each other...it was some cool holiday [yeah, im not from the US anymore :) ]

So I said have a good time and hung up. A few days later I get a text saying "are you mad..?" and I said "no, you just never return messages anymore". (which was half-true). ANYWAY- I get a message now on MSN, which is a f*cking paragraph long, whinning how she didn't get any messages to her cell or MSN if that's what I meant; blah blah blah. Honestly, I'm sick of this girl, she's not worth my effort to keep this half-assed relations alive.

What do I tell her now? "f*ck off, leave me alone hoe" (LMS style) OR just not reply to her messages anymore...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yea that's a bit different. I've "told off" girls before like that. My last LTR ended when I calmly told her (and I quote myself) "I'm done with your sh!t", walked out and never looked back. Thing is, when you tell a girl off, you better stick by your word and be very upfront about things. "no, you just never return messages anymore" is roundabout. What do you REALLY want? Hang out with her, right? Then instead you should have said, "text me when you're ready to hang out". You're only fueling the fire by playing along. Ignore until you get what you want. Or if you're really done (doesn't seem like you are), just tell her "you're unreliable and I'm not going to waste my time on flaky behavior. see ya around" <- dont even bother replying to any responses, unless you still want to see her.
 
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muscleman said:
Yea that's a bit different. I've "told off" girls before like that. My last LTR ended when I calmly told her (and I quote myself) "I'm done with your sh!t", walked out and never looked back. Thing is, when you tell a girl off, you better stick by your word and be very upfront about things. "no, you just never return messages anymore" is roundabout. What do you REALLY want? Hang out with her, right? Then instead you should have said, "text me when you're ready to hang out". You're only fueling the fire by playing along. Ignore until you get what you want. Or if you're really done (doesn't seem like you are), just tell her "you're unreliable and I'm not going to waste my time on flaky behavior. see ya around" <- dont even bother replying to any responses, unless you still want to see her.
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That's the answer I was looking for. Thanks for the advice.
 
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