"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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the day after text sex

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After three dates I ended up sleeping with this girl for the first time. Slept over at her place and she made me breakfast french toast and eggs.
We spent the day in chicago at Millennium park, the Art Institute, and a local bar to watch some college football.

Throughout the night she was sending me texts:
"I like the view from here."
"I want to kiss you later tonight."


What's the ideal text after sex w/ a girl for the first time? Thinking about...
"had a great time this wknd"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Aaron B

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have you already established a pattern of communicating with her via text (other than to facilitate real-life meetings)?

what does "had a great time" accomplish for you? is acting solely to placate your perception of her feelings something that benefits you?
 
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we have established some communication via text. She likes to text. I have only called her once on the phone.

I really only wanted to send her a text, to indicate I am interested (make her feel good).
 
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I'm not seeing any benefit to telling her that you "had a great time last night." Every time I tried that after a date (early on), the chick's interest level decreased.

Remember, she doesn't give a sh*t about how you feel. It's all about her. She's enjoying being with you, so it's all good. I know you like being with her, and that's great, but no need to verbalize it, at least not for a while.

It's better to take the texts she sent you and work with those in a seductive or flirty/teasing manner.

Girl: I'm thinking about kissing you.
Mike: Maybe....
Mike: I mean I could look you in the eyes deeply...
Mike: Then brush your hair aside...
Mike: Then lean in slowly...
Girl: Mmmm tell me more....
Mike: <continue with sensual/seductive story >

Done right, she'll get pretty wet. Or alternatively use some teasing...

Girl: I'm thinking about kissing you.
Mike: I'd like to kiss you....if you're being a good girl today ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Aaron B said:
she's knows you are interested

you made her feel good with your penis, isn't that enough?
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The penis is nothing without the text!!!!
 
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