The dating market is just getting worse every year

[Ricky]

I agree that people and women especially are so focused on the attention they get online even if it’s low quality attention, especially on the dating apps.

however, I know while you’re pointing was helpful for good reasons and what you’re saying is true if you focus on it too much it seems like you just get more of what you focus on

i’m doing my best to focus on fitness communities and reading and music. by doing so I attract women that are in those same areas too, and those tend to be the type of woman that I like the most.

 

[craider]

i’m doing my best to focus on fitness communities and reading and music. by doing so I attract women that are in those same areas too, and those tend to be the type of woman that I like the most.

See an interesting aspect is that in effect you are ostracizing attention hos and rewarding fitness girlies. Because you got tired of the nonsense. The cultural pendulum swings one person at a time, as long as people are self interested. Pursuit of happiness and all that .

 

[Ricky]

Thats a good point. In fact alot of the fitness girls can be attention hoes too but alot of them i meet in gym and running groups dont seem to be as much into the attention. They tend to have not monetized

The ones that generally love group fitness seem to be my target

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Blah blah blah...what have you done to increase your value in the market?

 

[Plinco]

your whole "the only thing one man owes another is rational thought" is also a cultural expectation. I.e. collectivist thought.

It's an individual expectation since it's the only one you can control. It's similar to saying that the market is a collectivist phenomenon since there's many people acting toward more expansive ends, but the mechanism are individual actors pursuing their own interests.

The problem being it doesn't work hence why you live in a society with laws and other cultural expectations...

Laws should reflect morals that are grounded on reason, but in practice this is not always the case. An example of this is where members of US congress are lawfully allowed to do insider trading but this practice is illegal for everyone else.

...and other cultural expectations.

"culture" is an authoritative device used to usurp the production of people so that a relative handful of people don't have to work for a living. You want a "culture" because you want other people to take care of you. The solution is just to interact with people and teach them how to treat you. That's it.

But if you did this exact thing in another culture and time, they'd just cut your head off. It's kind of ridiculous when you actually think about it.

Yeah they're called sh!tholes. There's places right now that are like that. Would you care to live in any of them?