Leporello said:
something that annoys me to no end...if I'm somewhere with alot of people I don't know (a party, a bar) seems like half the time i try to flirt with or even talk to a new girl she gives me a look as if I'd sneezed in her drink or something. Sort of a 'OMG you're trying to talk to me? eww creepy'.
The problem here (in my opinion) is simple.
You say that whenever you go somewhere where there's a lot of people
you don't know,it seems like girls give you the "creepy vibe" when you try to talk to them.
Seems to me that when you go to these places and are surrounded by a bunch of strangers,
YOU'RE uncomfortable.
You feel out of place.
If so,then that "uncomfortableness" will show up in the way you walk,talk,your body language,and demeanor.
You get what you give.
You give off uncomfortable energy,and since women are emotional,they pick up on the vibe you give off,and it makes them uncomfortable too.
Hence the "OMG you're trying to talk to me? eww creepy" feeling you get when you apporach them.
Like Sloag and AAAgent said
:No social proof. If the girls saw you talking and interacting normally with others,then maybe they'd feel more comfort when talking to you.
That would be my guess,especially if that "eww creepy" vibe is something you seem to get RIGHT OFF THE BAT,almost before you even opened your mouth.
Also like one of the other posters said:it'd would probably help to know what your conversation is with these girls as well.
Leporello said:
I don't see this as a reflection on my game, since I don't really like parties/clubs/bars as places to meet girls anyway,
Yeah,seems like you're uncomfortable. You say you don't like parties and clubs to meet women,but you go anyway.
So you're at a place you don't really want to be,trying to meet girls.
You can either try a different location,or work on feeling more comfortable at parties and clubs.
Leporello said:
but even my platonic female friends will complain that they don't like guys looking at them/hitting on them/trying to talk to them.
Remember:WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL.
Your female friends say they don't like it when guys look at them,try to talk to them,or hit on them.
They say that,but what they mean is they don't want guys WHO THEY'RE NOT ATTRACTED TO,OR WHO MAKE THEM
"FEEL" UNCOMFORTABLE to try to talk to them/hit on them/look at them.
They say they don't want guys looking at or trying to hit on them,but they get boobs jobs,wear mini-skirts,low-cut shirts,push-up bras,spend hours in front of a mirror.
They do ALL THAT,but they don't want guys trying to talk to them.
Oh pul-lease.
Leporello said:
WTF is up with that? Is this a societal thing or is it just the way I see it?
It's just the way YOU see it.
I know,because I used to be like that.
I'd try to talk to a girl,but the whole time she seemed nervous or uncomfortable...and she was,but it was because
I was nervous and uncomfortable when I approached her.
If you're just cool and calm,and talk to her like you've known her for 10 years instead of being afraid of saying something that may offend her,then your cool and calmness will infect her,just like being nervous does.
Good luck man.
